but, but...
ther "perfect" carry gun *does* exist<g> (never mind that there is no such thing...hands, situation, etc.):
para 6.45.
.45 cal (is there anything else for self defense<g>?), very small, sweet, sweet, sweet DA trigger, very accurate, easy to hold.....works with smaller hands too.....6+1 (i doubt that 99% of all potential self defense circumstances need even this many), thin as well as small.
i don't see why anyone would want, say, a kahr 40 when this gun is no bigger...although "feel" does matter and other guns might <somehow> feel better, i grant.
only thing missing is a long, long history..and that the jury is out in that regard until it isn't...at least on this particular gun.
para QA is not what, say, HKs is, but 1911s often need some tweaking anyway<g>.