Tales of self defense...

I have not been in a self defense shooting, but a situation going on 26 years ago taught me two things: that bad things can happen to anyone, anywhere, and that just because you are the good guy and victim in a situation doesn't mean that is how the courts will see it.


Dec 1990 I'm out with one of my best friends (he's black, and that was the motive for the attack against us) and some girls. Some guy walks into the convenience store where we are picking up a few things before going to another friends house and he starts verbally accosting my friend and accusing him of causing trouble with him at a party early that evening (we were all together all evening, and we were never at a party). As soon as we go outside, the guy is in my friend's face trying to get him to fight him. I try to get between them and talk them down, at which point 4 of the guy's friends jump me. Being jumped by 4 guys, and being an inexperienced fighter (my last, and only, fight before these guys jumped me was when I was 12, I was 20 at this time), I was down on the ground quickly. The last thing I remember before going unconscious was them (or someone) screaming "kill the (n-word), Kill the (n-word) lover." They only stop when people (potential witnesses) come out and the girls we were with start screaming at them (they were continuing to kick me while I was unconscious- luckily I only suffered a broken nose and a concussion), and my buddy got their tag number. When the police showed up, they talked to none of the neutral witnesses who were still there (most, but not all of the customers left, but the store employees were there), they took our statements (there were 4 of us including the girls we were with, but the girls only saw some but not all of it since we were out the door first), and then found our attacker's car. They took me and my friend in the back of their car to identify our attackers and then took their statements, and after about an hour finally took me to the hospital (which was only about 200 yards from where we were attacked). I guess because it was 5 v. 4 as far as witness statements, they mostly took what the 5 guys who attacked us said as fact and wrote it in the police report (which is important later as it made it a very uphill climb for us when we got to court).

Being from well educated, middle class families, we knew not to be involved in a court case (even as victims) without a lawyer, and it turns out that this was a very good decision and was the only thing that kept us out of jail. The statements given by our attackers and "enshrined" on the police report painted us as the aggressors, and from what my parents (who were in the courtroom) and our lawyer told us, we were painted as thugs, violent, and definitely the aggressors (remember, my last and only prior fight was when I as 12, I'm not exactly the violent type). These guys had extensive and often violent juvenile records, which could not be used since they were now adults (even though some of the juvenile arrests and convictions were less than a year old). All there also (our parents and our lawyer) thought the judge believed the defense's version of events with us as the instigators. Of course, we saw none of what happened in court except when we were on the stand since the judge sent us out early on (importantly, with no instructions), and our lawyer followed us out to tell us that he was surprised the judge did not tell us not to talk about the case, but to be safe we should only talk about unrelated things until after we testify. Around that time, one of the defendant's mothers came out and when we were talking (about everything but our attack and the trial since our lawyer advised us not to talk about that) she was looking at us with an odd smile. Shortly after we all testify, the mother goes in, and then we are called in with a quite serious tone one at a time.

Apparently, the mother said we were talking about the case and telling each other to "stick to the story." When called in we were questioned about what we talked about, which we answered (since what we talked about had nothing to do with the case we thought we had nothing to hide), we were lectured about how much trouble we were in, and the only decision was how long we were going to jail. When we were all called back, the judge said it didn't matter if we talked about the case and were getting our stories straight or not since we violated his order not to talk at all before sending us out (he claimed to always give this instruction) and we were going to jail for contempt. At that, I tried to interject (I was a 21 year old college student at the trial, what did I know of court decorum) and told him he didn't give us any instructions before sending us out and he called me a liar and told me I was adding to my sentence, I asked him to check the transcript and he said I was making it worse. Luckily, as I said, we had a lawyer who said the exact same thing I did and the judge listed to him (none of us went to jail).

I was told by our lawyer that the prosecutor made mistake after mistake, not presenting evidence she should have, and not challenging defense evidence she should have. The only of our attackers to get any punishment were two who plead guilty. They got a slap on the wrist. Meanwhile, my friend and I almost went to jail for being the victims and not being in the room (because we were sent out) when the judge gave some key instructions (to everyone but us since he gave them to the courtroom we had just been escorted out of). I also was threatened with a lawsuit for malicious prosecution by one of our remaining attackers if we didn't drop the charges.

Incidentally, I also learned (as part of them painting us as violent thugs), the fact that I had been in the Army and was at that time going to a military college was proof that I was a violent thug and wanted to hurt people. Meanwhile, the fact that one of our attackers was in the Navy was proof that he was an upstanding citizen. Hmm, does it sound like I'm still a bit upset over this whole situation...


Anyway, I learned from the attack, that even when you are a regular citizen, who keeps out of trouble, and is minding your own business, trouble can find you. I also learned from the court proceedings that the police and courts are not your friend, the prosecution isn't there for you if you are the victim, and you better have your own lawyer you trust if you care about your freedom and want to protect your rights.
 
This is a true story:

A co-worker of mine was in a relationship with a woman who had a violent streak and liked to argue and fight. He spent alot of time keeping her calm something I observed firsthand. He was not violent towards her. She would occasionally kick him out and then they'd make up.

He did have the issue of sometimes stepping out with other women which did not help things on the domestic front.

One night he was out with another woman and she found out. When he showed up at home at 3 am she shot him 3 times as he came up the front walk. 9mm as I recall. He was hit once in each leg and in the right shoulder. He went to the hospital she went to jail.

In jail she told the truth and asked the cops to take out a restraining order against him. They were puzzled by this as she admitted he had not tried to hurt her. She told them a restraining order would prevent her from killing the man she loved.

I called him at the hospital. He said, "At least I know she loves me". I reminded him that often love like that is hard to get over, especially if the bullets hit a bit higher or lower.

They were married 6 months or so later. I was at the wedding and the party afterward. The bride was quite happy and glowing. Also at the wedding was my friends 4 month old child and the baby's momma. She and the bride got along well.

Far as I know she never shot him again. But then I haven't seen him in a number of years.

You never quite get over being shot, physically that is. There are numb spots, and hitches in your body that remind you when you stand up or move a certain way. There is also a certain memory of it that sits in you, a caution.

tipoc
 
Okay, my wife doesn’t read these (this is her story and she isn’t usually pleased to be reminded) so, here goes.

Many years ago, she was big (7+ months) along with our firstborn and preparing for bed on a nice fall night with the window open. It was probably 1030 pm or so and I had departed an hour earlier to work the night shift. She heard a noise and turned her head to see a man at the window who appeared to be trying to remove the screen.

She shouted at him to go away, at which point he crouched below the window sill but declined to leave.

She picked up my High-Standard Citation from its usual place on the dresser and walked to the window while shouting to him to leave and that she (was armed). He remained crouched but didn’t move.

She told me later that she became concerned that he didn’t believe that she was armed so she simply fired a round through the open window, confident that it would pass well over his crouched position (She had a clear view of the lighted empty lot between the window and the brick wall of the next-door telephone-company building and, therefore, knew what was downrange). He immediately jumped up, leaped over the fence and sped away down the alley.

She called the police, then called me. By the time I got home the police had come and gone, hopefully to search for the prowler. She dressed and returned to work with me to spend the night on the lobby couch.

When we moved out of that (rented) cottage, there was still a .22 caliber hole in the wooden slat of the venetian blind.
 
The roles of concealed carry necessities are going down as more CCW's join the ranks. The most feared situation by incarcerated criminals is meeting an armed citizen in their crime actions.

For me, by the grace of God, I have never had to pull or shoot my concealed weapon!
 
In the mid 70s....I was working weekend/part time...to fill in time....at a country beer/wine store in Texas....the last stop...for beer...for hundreds of miles through dry counties. Just before closing on a sunday night....a car pulled off the hwy....stopped....out in the middle of the gravel parking...and sat there long enough to be noticed. He then pulled up and parked so he did not have to back up to leave....got out....a young..20ish white male...came in the store...looked around...walked up and down the three aisles....still looking around....when he approached the counter I was leaning on...watching a football game on the small set....he asked.."You working here alone?"....
..my response was to let my jacket fall open.....showing my hand resting on my 357....and said..."No"..."my buds in the head"....He did not say another word...turned around walked swiftly out...and drove away....never had seen him before or since that event.....
 
Ive have been accosted a couple times . 3 in morning. In a parking garage.A person with a knife decided he wanted my money . A 25 Beretta changed his mind . He ran really fast .
A few years later 3 guys decided I was the wrong color and I had offended one of their friends. A 38 snub adjusted their way of thinking and they moved on. . Both these happened in the 1980's .
 
QUOTE: "...Anyway, I learned from the attack, that even when you are a regular citizen, who keeps out of trouble, and is minding your own business, trouble can find you. I also learned from the court proceedings that the police and courts are not your friend, the prosecution isn't there for you if you are the victim, and you better have your own lawyer you trust if you care about your freedom and want to protect your rights."

Good advice, chaim. It would also seem that in the situation as you reported it, having a gun on your person might have been a bad idea for many reasons. The exception to the rule, no doubt, but an exception worth thinking about.
 
Everyone saying it's a "bad idea" to post it, it's really not. If all is said and done and the case is closed, it's not a bad idea at all. People can learn from such issues.
But it isn;t "closed" until the defendant is tried and acquitted or dismissed with prejudice, and that may not protect against civil suits.
 
Under Tennessee law, use of a firearm in self defense brings no charges Against the shooter, and no civil lawsuits can follow.

I think this type of simple belief is why we think that everyone in jail must be an idiot. Under the simplicity of that logic every murderer in Tennessee only had to state he or she committed the crime in self defense and no charges would have been able to be pursued. If they didn't make that statement they must be really missing something
 
Everyone saying it's a "bad idea" to post it, it's really not. If all is said and done and the case is closed, it's not a bad idea at all. People can learn from such issues.

Not every case goes to court. Neither do all cases, likely most, don't involve the law. It's preferable when they don't.

In many cases they simple don't bear speaking of. People other than oneself may be involved. Speaking of incidents, even in the distant past, without clearing it with all involved is bad form at best and can press into endangering others or their reputations, or dredging up memories best left sleeping.

If 25 years ago you pointed a gun at your brother in law to get him to stop beating your sister and beat him with that gun in front of his children...what good is done by discussing it today. If any good is to it, it would be in the family.

Sometimes things happen which are the right thing to do but may not be exactly legal, or could be used by cops to put someone needlessly in a tight spot, they don't need to be discussed.

Some things can be said that can't be proven without compromise. If it can't be proven why say it in a public place. To brag? There are plenty of news worthy stories out there, in American Rifleman and in the regular press.

tipoc
 
I had the battery stolen out of my salesman vehicle at a large southern city apartment parking lot. Was newly married and replacement of a battery was not in our budget. I was warned that in this part of the city, they would sometimes wait for a new battery to appear and replace the old one and steal the new instead!

I parked my vehicle in a different place near a light post. Heard racket in the parking lot, and saw someone trying to break the window out of a VW in the same lot. I went out in my pajama bottoms with a pistol in my hand, and yelled, "What the h### are you doing?

I heard the person say, "OMG, he's got a gun.....It's me, (my name)! I'm your Apartment Manager next door....this person locked her keys in her VW and we are trying to get in!

This was in 1972 before CCW was issued to citizens in that state.
 
Prosecutors want to find everyone guilty. They are not concerned with justice. They are concerned with making themselves look good. They will ignore and/or hide anything that may go against them.
 
I went out in my pajama bottoms with a pistol in my hand, and yelled, "What the h### are you doing?
Except under very rare circumstances, that would be an exceedingly unwise thing to do, for several reaspns.
 
Prosecutors want to find everyone guilty. They are not concerned with justice. They are concerned with making themselves look good. They will ignore and/or hide anything that may go against them.
That represents a fundamental misunderstanding of the legal advocacy system.
 
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