A few more points to consider, and if I have it wrong, please correct me...
My understanding is that before a restraining order is issued, you are informed, and given the opportunity to be at the hearing, so that you may present your side of the argument for the judge to consider. IF you don't show up, that's on you. There are/have been cases where they court requires you to show up, but those are on an individual case by case basis, not general principle.
And that what ever conditions are set in the order, they only exist for the duration of the order (typically, one year).
This is different from the "red flag" laws recently passed, which do not require notification until AFTER the guns are seized (though you may be notified before), and you get a hearing to give your side of the story... sometime within a year from when the guns are taken.
Are these kinds of laws wide open and ripe for abuse?? ABSO-Frackin-LUTELY!!!!
Not all that long ago, a woman filed to have a cop's right to arms removed, under the domestic violence laws. She claimed it was domestic violence, because they "had a child in common".
The "child in common" was a 36 year old adult (her son) who threated the cop with a knife and got shot due to that. The ONLY thing the woman and the cop had "in common" was that the "child" was her son. and the cop shot him. (ruled justified)
When this came to light, the woman had charges brought against her, (false report, etc). She disappeared, last I heard, warrants were issued for her arrest.
These kinds of things CAN happen thanks to the language, and the very concept of red flag laws.
Restraining order, or red flag, or what ever is used to take guns, or remove or restrict any Constitutionally enumerated rights from people NOT CONVICTED of a crime, is a bad idea, and any such mechanism that removes only their guns, BUT leaves them free on the street with both the liberty and their financial resources is a really bad idea. Anyone deemed a danger to others, or a "creditable threat" should NOT be walking around town with the ability to obtain other tools to use to harm people.
Its flawed reasoning, and I think bad law, done to create a "feel good" impression when, it reality, it protects no one.