you are missing the most important part of the thing. You have two ways of measuring energy.
Kinetic energy favors velocity. Your huge velocity is what causes the explosion and destruction of material. The point, and so forth, also cause the destructive nature of the high velocity round. The energy contained in that .243, cranked up to 100,000 FPS, could literally blow a house apart when that energy is released. It would have the energy of dynamite. at near light speed, it could probably destroy a small asteroid. You would be amazed what a meteorite the size of a pebble can do. it will flame out so brightly that it can be seen from earth, all because of the enormous speed that it reaches.
Let's recalculate those numbers in a manner that doesn't favor speed, and instead, favors weight. Velocity is a destructive force, weight is more involved in pushing.
When we take the numbers and simply multiply, we get a number that favors weight.
The.243, at 00.36 KG, at 945 MPS, turns out 3.40 meters-kilograms of energy.
The 30-06 at .0097 kg, at 731 meters per second, turns out 7.10 meters-kilograms of energy
.243 = 3.40 of "push."
30-06 = 7.10 of "push."
With this new way of counting the "energy," we find that the 30-06 is over twice as powerful in the measurement that favors knocking the steel plate over. The 30-06 doesn't even compare to the .243 when we calculate the energy in a manner that favors destructive force. This is exactly what these two very different cartridges are. the .243 with the 55 grain bullet is intended to be a varmint gun, meant to blow small animals to kingdom come. The 30-06 is intended to punch long, bleeding holes in big game, rather than disintegrate their innards.
You know about roy weatherby, right?
Roy felt that velocity was the greatest factor in killing. He created an entirely new range of cartridges that were designed to be the fastest rounds in the nation. He was looking for one thing.
"I intend to create a rifle and cartridge that is certain to create such a shock when it strikes game that it will be as violent as being struck by lightning, and will thrown the animal to the ground, dead on impact."
This is not exactly what he said, it is the best I can do, using his words as I remember them.
James howe created rifles and loads that could exceed 5,000 fps. He realized that they had no purpose in hunting, as they would have struck literally like explosives.
in this time, energy is only measured in KE. People like seeing huge numbers of KE. We, as shooters, must use our own instincts to realize whether one cartridge or another is proper to the use we intend for it. Do we want a cartridge, for example, that will dig a huge crater in a steel silhouette and simply knock it over, or do we want a round that will "push" that steel chicken 25 feet?
when I fired silhouettes, this is about what I found. A 22-250 blew a dime sized hole in the chicken, and pretty much just tossed it a few feet. The larger, heavier rounds might throw it 20 feet or so, leaving a smear of lead and a dent.
So that is it. One cartridge functions as a destructive device, and gets a high score as a destructive device. The other functions as a hammer, and gets a high score as a hammer.
Hope this helps. I understand if it's still unclear. This is college level physics, (maybe high school) and every day, thousands of people struggle with it.