Spouses and guns in the house and Guns in general

Keping yours guns in the house the spouses response

  • Yes she will let me keep them in the house (nothing attached)

    Votes: 133 98.5%

  • Yes but with exceptions (to include bribery, honey do list etc.)

    Votes: 2 1.5%

  • No but thinking about it (just keeps you hanging)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • No not here and you better ask before thinking about buying another one

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    135
  • Poll closed .
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TNT

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I seen a post where some of the guys are talking about guns and wives not allowing them in the house. And I got to admit first off guns are apart of who I am and if you cant live with it then we dont need to be together My ex wife said the same thing I pulled the rank on her and tell her take it or I leave she caved in. My wife now (current not the EX) strongly ENCOURAGES me to shoot and buy what guns I want. Its so bad I have to her that "honey we cant afford the M2 .50 cal." You think I am pulling your chain I am not if I am looking on line for a gun the first question she will ask me is "do i want it?" I was looking at a M2 just to drool and look and she asked the question. I had to tell her no.

I hope no one takes this wrong but if you caved into her demands of not being able to keep the guns in the house then that is on you my friend, But to be honest I Love my wife and in turn she knows I love her and she loves my obsession with my guns I am who I am.

So how many of you have wives that allow you to keep them in the house. And how many of you don't. Tell your stories here.
 
I have approximately the same problem as TNT, but my formerly hoplophobic wife is much younger and from longer lived stock, so she has a tendency to ask that they be put in her name.
 
Before we got married, she had issues with me temporarily storing an unloaded pistol in my dresser drawer (didn't have a safe at the time).

Now... she sleeps with a loaded Ruger P95DC (no safety) within reach. And, every time I'm going out of town without her for a few days (hunting, camping, what ever); she asks me if the two other SD guns are still loaded, still in the same locations, and has me do a quick review of their function.

The firearms are just another household appliance, to her. Respect them, use them, and have no fear.
 
I don't have the first ex-wife but the one I do have is quit supportive of my gun and shooting habit. After 17 years married this year her ann. gift to me was a trio of walther PPK's. She saw me looking at one in my usual gun shop and went back with out me, and not knowing what cal. I was looking at she got me all three in the case (all post war civilian). One of the many reasons she is not an ex. and will not become one.
 
Gents with women like you described they are truly gems and keepers at that. I was dating my wife now I complained that my EX wouldn't even think about helping me buy a gun, my wife now has coordinated the financial efforts for my Golden Boy, GSG5, S&W 5906,Ruger 10/22, and the up and coming Thompson she is currently averaging one gun every two yrs. And sgms I have a similar problem as you I have learned that when we go to a store or a gun show to look I keep my mouth shut and eyes straight ahead otherwise she will buy me what I a looking at no BS true story. "honey do you want that?"
 
Cambuel I had mine wanting to trade her 39A for my Golden Boy and I told love does have boundaries................ So we are now co-owners. I couldn't argue with her lol :D

Franken I gotta whole lot of respect for your wife with regards to she situational awareness of things
 
Presently, the only loaded gun in our house is my wife's 38 Special, and she recently said that she wanted to take the CC handgun class. Well now...that was a surprise, but a good one. We've picked a new handgun to buy and will get it in 2 weeks, which is close to both our birthdays. I THINK that I get the new handgun and she stays with the 38, but that really hasn't been discussed yet. I think she'll want to see how the new one shoots. If she wants ownership of the new one, I'll be forced :D to get a new one for myself.
 
Before my wife and I got married, she told me that "I won't keep any loaded guns in the house." I told her that "I've had a loaded gun in the house long before her and I'd have one long after her." and that pretty much ended it.
Guns and hunting are a passion of mine. I couldn't see changing that for any one. Be true to yourself always.
 
I didn't vote because there's no option that fits my situation...

She doesn't "let" me keep loaded guns in the house, but rather we keep loaded guns in the house.

It's a marriage, not a king/queen vs. pauper... Neither of us "let" the other do anything, we do things together, as one. As it's supposed to be, just like our parents, and their parents before them...

Run your marriage as you and yours wish to do... But my word of advice is to work together, not on a barter system, trading permission for honey-do's and what-not... Just doesn't make sense to me to not work with my wife...
 
I'm (kinda) with Coastie:

My wife says she can't stand guns, but what I do about them is my business and she doesn't interfere.

So, there was no option for me to vote.

BTW, this is a (relatively) new phenomenon. She once upon a time would shoot with me and actually carried a S&W 317 when she went running.

That was a long time ago and we don't really discuss why she changed her mind.

She doesn't like to be reminded that she's the only person I'm personally acquainted with (aside from my military friends) who has actually shot at someone :D. Also a long time ago and far away.

She is aware of the inconsistency of her position (e.g., there are times when she is pleased enough that I'm carrying) and is unapologetic about it.

We humans have to be neither consistent nor reasonable, I guess. I love her and I've had her for over 40 years so I think I'll keep her.

Best,

Will
 
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Both my ex and current have no issues with guns - have wanted me to show them how to shoot (as well as train the boys), current wife even has her own sporting clays shotgun (but I am still doing the reloading and cleaning...:eek:)

Folks with an abnormal fear of a material object, IME, have that fear for a different reason - the gun itself can do nothing without action by someone.
 
Wouldn't do her much good if she didn't like them and voiced her opinion as thus. She knows it too; some of my guns pre-date her and many of the others, she bought. She's not a gun lover like me, but she's been really cool for 36 years now.
 
Before my wife and I got married, she told me that "I won't keep any loaded guns in the house." I told her that "I've had a loaded gun in the house long before her and I'd have one long after her." and that pretty much ended it.
Guns and hunting are a passion of mine. I couldn't see changing that for any one. Be true to yourself always.
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That's the point. There are certains things that have to kept beyond negotiation. If she trusts you to drive her around, she's got to trust you when it comes to you being able to keep your firearms at home in a safe way.

In my case, she's got no fascination for firearms at all. However, she knows where the pistol is, knows how to handle it and has shot her enough to make me confident that, if (God forbid) the need comes, she'll be able to defend herself if I'm not at home.
 
To any bachelors out there...

Before you get married you need to discuss what could be potential dealbreakers in the marriage while you are dating.

If you are into guns and the future spouse isnt do not just bury it to silence her. Have a real discussion about it.
 
if course i keep my guns and ammunition in the house (bedroom). we are both adults. she has and does what she likes and the same goes for me.

i cant even image having to ask permisssion:confused:
 
Before we got married she was against firearms because of her lack of knowledge and experience and also her parents’ negativity towards firearm. I didn't force her to see it from my point of view. Lo and behold one of her co-worker's husband is an instructor at gun range near where we live.

So I arranged a day to go with her to the range with her co-worker's husband (instructor) and we shot a few firearms from .22 to 9mm. So when we got married three months later I had a discussion with her that it is my responsibility to protect her but I cannot do that with a telephone as it is inadequate. So I told her I'm thinking of buying a firearm for the house just in case we need it. She turn to me and said " even though I'm hesitant, I trust your decisions" :eek::eek::eek:: I almost passed out because she has come a long way.

This was almost two years ago and now we own three firearms (2 Glock 19's Gen 3 and Gen 4 (hers) and also a Daniel Defense M4 Carbine). I carry daily and she wants to take her ccw class next year. So my advice is that as a man it is your responsibility to be able to persuade and ease her fears about these things and she will eventually come on your side because she married you.:D:D:D:
 
When we first started dating, my wife was a bit hesitant about my guns, but I explained to her my reasoning behind carrying and keeping firearms. Now, she is still a little hesitant to do any shooting herself, but there have been more than a few times when we are walking back to the vehicle after dark downtown that she has turned to me and wanted to make sure I was carrying.
 
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