I am looking a for a perfect gun for my soon wife to be. I was looking at the Sig P232 stainless. I was also concerned with the recoil and mag release of the gun. But this is one beautiful gun and fits in her hand like a glove. I want her to be comfortable with it and able to manage the recoil. I am thinking .380ACP or 9MM. She's a small girl with small average size girlie hands I guess. What guns can you guys recommend for her aside from the P232? I am also considering a revoler since it is easier for her to load unlike semi autos. What are the advantage and dis ad. of a .380 vs. 9mm? Thanks.