She Said "You don't know who your messin' with."

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How did you pose a threat to her? She doesn't know you from Adam and you got her car dirty. She had no way of knowing that you work for your family business (see, I do read other posts!) and was just doing what your boss (most likely a relative) asked you to do. To her, you were probably just some punk kid cutting grass.
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What world do you live in that such a thing could be considered a threat? I'm usually pretty soft spoken and gentle about things but you're just being ridiculous.
 
scott, I think you may just be the devils advocate my friend.
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Well for some of you (I think most of you) here who have read my posts on TFL, that's my job. My whole point was that it is possible, gun ownership aside, that we are not always the one who feels threatened. Obviously she never had the benefit a CCW class or she would have known about brandishing.

It is not up to us to tell make that judgement call for her and determine what is a threat and what isn't.

Bless her heart and I bet you don't mess with her again! Maybe you should go over there in proper business attire with some sort of peace offering from your company?

And for peetzakilla:
What world do you live in that such a thing could be considered a threat?
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In my world, that isn't a very serious offense, but you have no way of knowing what this woman has gone through in the past. Just because you wouldn't feel threatened, you can not make that judgement call for someone else. Obviously she carries mace for a reason and you don't know what that reason is, do you? Its that whole "Walk a mile in their shoes" thing and you don't know that woman from Eve!

Scott
 
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It is not up to us to tell make that judgement call for her and determine what is a threat and what isn't.
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Yes, it really is, or at least it certainly can be. Any given person can't just decide that any given thing is a threat to them. That is completely nonsensical. A dirty car is not a threat in ANY WORLD. I don't care if she thinks it is or not. If she does, she's WRONG.


In my world, that isn't a very serious offense, but you have no way of knowing what this woman has gone through in the past.
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There is no excuse that could cause a dirty car to be a threat. NONE. ZERO. NADA. Her past is irrelevant. Some things can NOT be justified, regardless.


Threat:
menace: something that is a source of danger; "earthquakes are a constant threat in Japan"
a warning that something unpleasant is imminent; "they were under threat of arrest"
declaration of an intention or a determination to inflict harm on another; "his threat to kill me was quite explicit"
terror: a person who inspires fear or dread; "he was the terror of the neighborhood"

Threaten:
threaten - endanger: pose a threat to; present a danger to; "The pollution is endangering the crops"
threaten - to utter intentions of injury or punishment against:"He threatened me when I tried to call the police"
threaten - to be a menacing indication of something:"The clouds threaten rain"; "Danger threatens"
 
If she REALLY felt threatened....

she wouldn't have run out of her house to confront a strange man. If I'm in my house and there is someone outside it that I feel threatened by...I call the cops. Only once they start coming into my house (or, in this case, even enter my property), thats when I take action personally.
 
How did you pose a threat to her? She doesn't know you from Adam and you got her car dirty.
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You could take a leak on her hood and it still would not be posing a physical threat. Granted, that would not be a fun place to get maced:D
 
From me:
It is not up to us to tell make that judgement call for her and determine what is a threat and what isn't.
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From peetzakilla:
Yes, it really is, or at least it certainly can be.
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No, its not! I added the "Walk a mile in their shoes" part after you made your reply. Everyone's life experience is different. You're a rough tough guy who carries a piece and ain't afraid of nuthin', but you simply can not apply your standard of threat universally.

What if she had been raped at some time in the past? Pretty much, all men are a threat at that point. So here is this guy in jeans (he wears jeans at work, he said so in another post) who is all dirty from the dust and approaches her.

If she had maced the OP and he did press charges, she probably would have lost. I agree with that. She was wrong but she was willing to take the chance of being wrong and alive than to be a victim... possibly again.

Scott
 
Wow, a simple event turns into a huge thread. Just re inforces my opinion that there are a lot of whack jobs out there.

Pulled a can of mace? Time to get the corn chips out :) makes a good dip.

Some folks care about their property in a very un normal fashion, these people are to be left alone and ignored as much as possible. They will scurry off to the nearest car wash and once again return to the happiness only a clean car can give.

I would have offered her 5 bucks so she could get the thing washed and forgot about the entire incident.
 
I'm looking for the smilies here. If she had been raped, why the hell would she approach and threaten (yes, threaten) the big bad would-be rapist (er, that would be hot, dusty, sweaty Housezealot, who was probably thinking about that first cold beverage). Housezealot wasn't blocking access to her vehicle, as nearly as can be determined; more than that, she was inside a building, the safety and comfort of which she chose to abandon specifically to confront him. This is silliness. Housezealot "threatened" this woman like Poland "threatened" Germany.

The wench is lucky she didn't get maced for her trouble.
 
What if she had been raped at some time in the past? Pretty much, all men are a threat at that point. So here is this guy in jeans (he wears jeans at work, he said so in another post) who is all dirty from the dust and approaches her.
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Wrong. He did not approach her, she approached him, making her the aggressor in the first place.

So this woman who is traumatized from being raped is going to approach a man mowing the lawn and stick a can of mace in his face? No.

This lady was way out of line no matter how you look at it.
 
If I got maced I would def call the police, file charges; plus file civil lawsuit. Dumb b**ch. I would not, however, pull a gun on a woman unless she pulled on me.
 
OK, I will admit that I am just guessing when it comes to this woman's motivations, just like everyone else. She might have had a bad experience in the past and she definitely didn't like what Housezealot did to her car. Maybe she is just some whacked out looney tunes who shouldn't be out in public in the first place. Who knows?

I will sit back and patiently wait for the next scenario... and there will be a next scenario. This is TFL after all!

Scott
 
Scottaschultz, I don't mean to pile on, but Housezealot mowed a lawn, nothing else. He did not threaten or even approach the woman. She objected to him mowing the lawn when she had her car parked outside and threatened him with her mace.

I don't need permission from the neighbors to mow my lawn, and I don't expect them to object in any way (if it is a decent hour) and certainly not to threaten me over it. And if I hire someone else to mow my lawn, that is still my business.

Housezealot restrained himself, apologized as far as was possible with such an unreasonable person, and de-escalated the situation. It was his option whether to call the police or not, and he elected to be nice to the woman who was extremely rude and threatening - probably to the point of it being a criminal violation. Someone really needs to talk to the woman, but Housezealot probably is not in a position to be the one.

Such an inappropriate response may be cause for a mental health evaluation, so if HZ is in contact with someone who can approach her, great. Otherwise it is over.
 
like I said there was no thought of drawing down on her, the fact that I was armed didn't even occur to me untill much later, I never really felt threatened, years ago I was standing next to a guy who's girlfriend maced him (over a verbal argument actually) and the little that hit me wasn't that bad, also like many of us here I had the privilage of the CS tent in basic training and even that wasn't near as bad as people think.
now if it had been a couple of big guys that could have maced me, got the best of me and I had no avenue of escape (I have two artificial hips so no ninja flips or wall scaling for me) I definetly would have remebered I was armed.
but more than anything I presented my story becuse I thought it was a good example that you never know what kind of nut you will run into
 
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ScottASchultz...

Where did you get that she felt threatened, and was defending herself? The woman approached the OP, not vice versa. The OP apologized for the dust on the car, and offered to give the woman a heads up prior to mowing the next time.

Considering that to be threatening behavior on the OP's part is going beyond the pale, for useful devil's advocate.

Unless the OP is leaving out some major detail, the woman was totally in the wrong. Also, in your first post, you deliberately broke one of the OP's statements into two parts just so you could make a snide remark about his motivations, which were then eventually refuted by the second portion of his statement only after you tossed in a couple paragraphs excoriating the OP for an intent THAT WAS CLEARLY NOT IN EVIDENCE.

Seriously, that's not devil's advocate, that's almost defamatory.
 
Where did you get that she felt threatened, and was defending herself?
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Maybe from the fact that she came up to him with a can of mace and said, "You don't know who you are messin' with!" I will agree that she probably wasn't defending herself but rather being the aggressor.

Sheesh! Someone needs to switch to decaf... and maybe its me!

If you have an interesting experience and don't really care about what people think about it, then DON'T POST IT ON THE INTERNET!

Next case!

Scott
 
Having differing opinions is one thing...

Selectively quoting somebody in order to support theory or facts not in evidence is something else entirely.
 
Selectively quoting somebody in order to support theory or facts not in evidence is something else entirely.
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it's called politics isn't it?;)
or mabey mainstream journalism.
speaking of which, scott, I swear I went to broadcasting school with a scott that seemed to play devils advocate exactly like you. if you lived in michigan I would swear you were him
 
I have to say, this thread made my day.:D I'm sorry if it was meant to be serious, but the direction it went with all the misunderstanding just made me bust a gut! I don't know if I can watch anyone mow the lawn with a straight face right now.
 
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