Greetings Pthfndr
I would give the smart advice "Whatever feeds most reliably in your pistol."
However, since you've already mentioned the ultra reliable Beretta 92fs , my advice might be "Whatever groups the tightest and to the point of aim in your pistol."
Any factory JHP of 115 grains or more should be your starting point. Once you discover what you like best, buy as many boxes as possible from that same lot.
Remember that there are always tradeoffs. Clean burning or low muzzle flash? Penetration or expansion? Think realistically of your concerns and possible needs. You may want to use different loads at different times because of penetration concerns for example. Mountain hiking or home defense?
Beretta makes a great pistol. The 9mm Parabellum is a top choice for self defense. Enjoy the "My gun and load are best arguments" but don't worry yourself sick over your choice. If you were carrying a Bryco .380, then we might have to converse a bit more.
Now for my personal preferences, 115gr +P or +P+ JHP. It worked for the ISP for several years and cycles reliably during weak hand shooting. The Remington 124 grain +P Golden Saber should be worth a try. The Winchester 115gr Silvertip is good even in the standard pressure loading. I just bought a couple boxes of Federal 147 grain +P+ Hydra Shoks in .38 Special. I tend to avoid heavy bullet weights in the 9X19 though, especially the subsonics, because of cycle reliablity concerns. I have fired them out of my 92 without a single problem however. I would strongly recommend the +P loadings in this weight. As for the exotics, the Triton Quik-Shok seems to be a decent compromise and the MagSafe SWAT load is specifically designed to break up in walls and other building materials.
There are so many loads for the nine, I probably overlooked some very good ones. Have fun experimenting. Tactics and mindset are more important than which hollowpoint you choose anyway.