Art - you are a sicko!!!
.284 - funny, I'm a former 8541 and feel the same as your friend...lodge in the skin on the far side. That's perfect world though.
I use the old Winchester Fail Safes (Not the Nosler CTs) in my .308. 180gr ones. I'm primarily an elk hunter, but I use the same load on black bears, deer, coyotes - everything. Just because I get tired of re-sighting in all the time. The bullets were designed to expand, and often, the petals shear off and the roughly remaining 160gr projectile penetrates extremely well - always punching out the other side. This doesn't always happen, though. I shot a black bear with this load and the Fail Safe penetrated over 4 FEET!! Needless to say, it was a frontal shot. And since I hunt elk a lot, I like that potential for penetration. This bullet did not shed its petals.
I like BOTH penetration AND expansion, and look for loads that will do both. Frankly, I haven't found another bullet that does it as well as those old Fail Safes. Barnes are close - Etips, have been disappointing, but the old CT Partition Golds are nearly as good.
The rub is, you really can't pick and choose, you need both in the rifle load when shooting big animals like elk, moose and the brown (type) bears. For deer and smaller stuff...a 180gr .308 Fail Safe expands enough, to kill any deer I'll shoot, and penetrate a lot. For deer, I don't care, really, how much it expands. They are easy to kill. Elk, not quite so much, so the expansion/penetration mix is more important.