Ok, its a bit lengthy so bear with me. I bought my very first gun over St. Patty's Day. Its a Ruger SR9 (which is a 9x19mm for those who don't know). I bought it because it was affordable and reliable. Its intended use is for home defense and possibly concealed carry. I need an honest opinion on my choice of caliber...... I chose this caliber because: 1. ammo is abundant and affordable. 2.recoil is easy to manage allowing for quick follow up shots and better accuracy. 3.I love shooting it (because, in my opinion, there is no point in owning a gun you intend to carry if you don't enjoy practicing with it and are confident with it) 4.its made in the US and 5.im only about 135 pounds and i'd rather not have my pistol for defensive purposes knock me on my butt after 1 shot..... I had done months of research on various guns and calibers and had been to numerous forums, reviews, and such before I decided on this gun. So far I have been told that 9mm sucks and how it was a bad choice and it would be nice to get an honest opinion because I am tired of people who DON'T EVEN OWN a gun telling me what they think is best. Is 9mm really that bad? or am I just surrounded by idiots where I live? (obviously, im a little frustrated at this point ) keep in mind that i WILL be using hollow points and when at home i will also have my Viridian laser sight on it (the laser was a 50% off promo and i'd be an idiot to pass that price on a green laser).