Unless the process has changed, you will find nickel plated brass harder.
It's not the nickel plating, it's electro-chemical hardening of the brass.
This is about ZERO issue with pistol brass, but it might be an issue for hyper accurate rifles where you want absloute consistent results.
Keep in mind, 'Nickel Plate' ISN'T!
It's nickel-chromium and harder than your chamber or brass.
Since it's harder than the brass, it flakes off as the brass expands, contacts & is resized.
Since chromium is harder than most chambers (harder than all common barrels/chambers) it very well CAN imprint in your chamber, and even your dies. (Like the guys told you)
Nickel-Chromium IS hard enough to scratch/imprint the necks of chambers, and the necks of sizing dies.
I reload plated & coated brass, but I won't use my best dies, and I won't shoot it through my best rifles.
A .02 cent piece of brass isn't worth scratching up high dollar competition dies or match/bench chambers.
If they sneak into pistol ammo, I don't care since chamber pressure in most popular handguns won't cause issues even with flaking plating.
It *Might* scratch a pistol die, but I don't own high dollar pistol dies, and considering the circular size of most pistol chambers, I just don't get excited about it...