You may have overlooked the SIG P238 in 380. I dont have any of the others mentioned to compare against. I do have a walther PPK/S in 380 and the SIG is much milder shooting. I would stay away from the blow backs.
If a P238 is in the running, I’d check out the P938. It is slightly larger, but caliber does make the extra bulk worth it. Not saying one is better, but to definitely look at both.
The laser option is nice, but I’m more of a fan for the TLR-6. Rather have the light, as well.