XB hit it dead on the head.
No commander WANTS to see their soldiers, sailors, Marines, airmen or Guardsmen (and women) die or get hurt. Whether the leader is a small unit commander (squad leader/platoon sergeant/first sergeant/platoon leader/company commander) or leading a major command, there is nothing any NCO or officer wants more fervently then to have a colorful (if uneventful) command.
However, the priority is the accomplishment of the mission. And with the lines of warfare being as fluid as they are, there is really no such thing as the FEBA (forward edge of the battle area) anymore. Sure, they may be on a map, but give an hour and the whole thing might change.
The fighting men (AND women, nowadays) who are in the rear echelons might find themselves suddenly at the focal point of combat action which might decide the course of the entire conflict.
When that happens, you must be able to rise to the occasion. This is where your training and discipline leads you--to ensure that you do your part to accomplish the mission.
Have you ever seen the movie "Battle of the Bulge"? There is a scene where (don't know how true to history it is) where a general officer makes the decision to withdraw his command from their location. Because of the speed and closeness of the German advance, he needed to buy some time for the rest of his command to make it out safely.
He made the decision to leave one company sized unit of Infantry behind to slow the German advance. His parting orders and conversation with the Company Commander shows that they both know and understand the orders. The General will take the major command to safety.
The Infantry Commander knows that neither he nor his men will walk away from that confrontation. Anyone that is not killed in the battle WILL become a POW.
If confronted with that situation, here's what the American fighting soldier/sailor/airman/Marine/Guardsman does:
He or she improves their fighting position, scrounges all the ammunition they can get, occupies that position, locks and loads, grabs their gravitas, looks out upon their chosen slice of the killing ground.....
and says, "Bring it."
They know that the chances that they will leave that position alive are slim; but they have received the lawful orders of their Commanders, and they will HOLD THAT GROUND until the weapon falls from their lifeless fingers.
We, as citizens of the greatest Nation on earth, can give heartfelt thanks to Almighty God that we have--and have had--fighting men and women who have the guts enough to stand their ground under those orders and conditions. We have had those kinds of people in our Armed Forces since the first Minutemen stared the soldiers of the British Empire in the eye at Concord.
We have had those magnificent soldiers in every conflict since then--and we exist as a Nation because of it.
Only you can answer this question for yourself.
Can you obey an order like that?
Could you potentially GIVE an order like that?
Are you willing to stand your post, and quit your post only when properly relieved--even at the cost of your life?
If not, again--rethink the military. It ain't about the college money, the travel of the adventure.
It is about raising your hand to Almighty God and swearing an oath to support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic. It is about obeying the orders of the officers appointed over you.
At ANY cost. At ANY price. Even unto death.
Are you ready?