OK an old broad chiming in.....I am a 58 year old woman.
By the bed is usually a revolver of some sort, like my S&W 66 or 627PC (8 shots of 357 awesomeness). Also usually floating around nearby is an M&P 9 Pro Series, and/or a S&W E-series 1911SC. More on this one later.
Range toys, among the favorites are 3rd gen S&W semi-autos 5903 and 5906, 3913, and 4566. the 3913 is easily tote-able, but i have others I carry. Also a favorite range toy is the S&W commander mentioned above. Shot this very well right out of the box. Regulars also include Walther PPQ, Beretta 92FS and 92FS Compact, CZ75-B. Lately been on a Sig kick, have P226 Mk25 i am fond of, but really find i am loving an older P229. All these semi-autos are 9s, with the exception of the 1911 and 4566 in 45 (duh) and P229, which is in 40 and 357 sig (have both barrels for it).
For carry, i regularly rotate S&W 442, Kahr PM9, S&W Shield and Sig P938.
I find myself recommending the Shield often. It is very natural and easy to shoot, and seems to carry smaller than it is. The PM 9 tucks nicely and isnt too wide. I LOVE the P938, but it is a mini-1911, and I can't recommend carry unless she is willing to train to proficiency with a gun carried cocked and locked, with mandatory safety use in the manual of arms. Generally, I recommend something DA/SA for carry, for most folks who are not range rats like me. LOL the heaviest thing about the 442 is the ammo. I purse carry it without noticing the addition in weight. It also pockets nicely. (I should mention that I am 5'8", if height matters from a carry perspective.)
I am a 1911 fan, and have 4 in various flavors - Colt, couple S&Ws and a WWII era Remington Rand. My favorite to shoot is the E-series 1911PC. I have the E-series full size, all steel, and I like it. But I LOVE the scandium framed SC Commander size. It has the Bob-tail, and it just fits my hand. I thought the scandium frame might be too light or cause imbalance, but the exact opposite is true. It is very well balanced, and it makes me look good shooting it. I didn't find that lighter frame negatively affected 45 recoil at all. LOL my LGS had me at "here hold this one and see what you think." (Do they know me or what?)
One that is often overlooked is the S&W model 39-2. This is a single stack 9, and has the bob-tail, too. I LOVED this one with the first shot. It's an alloy frame, and fairly light. Not too big. It fits my hand perfectly. Well balanced, easy to stay on target with subsequent shots. Not made in a long time, but they are out there. Find one and you and she will like it.
You will notice the absence of Glocks. Don't like the grip angle, just does not fit my hand. Too different from all the other things I shoot, and just not natural to pick up and point and shoot. At least for me. YMMV For the same reason I prefer the 22/45 to my tricked out MkII. MkII is a super gun, just easier to pick up the 22/45 and not think about altering the muscle memory. Again, YMMV. Horses for courses, and all that.
Don't know if any of this helps, but 2c worth from a tired lady after a long week of work. I am happy to answer questions, any time.
You might have figured out that i don't hold on to bonus money very long LOL. Also helps no kids to feed these days, only guns!