Im not aganst the J frames either, from a quality and shooting stand point. Ive always found mine to be accurate, and all had reasonable triggers, as have most all my S&W's. Sounds like you just came across a bad one, which happens with all of them sooner or later.
My only real complaint, other than the capacity issue, is my hand hates me for a couple of days after shooting a box of 50 in practice, which I do a couple of times a month. Mine are all Airweights, and brutal to shoot. They do require regular practice to stay on top of them, and shooting wadcutters in place of hot SD loads, isnt realistic, hence the pain.
Im always amazed that people buy them for their wives or if novices for themselves. They are not beginners guns, and often, even the more experienced shooters have troubles with them too.