How do I break it to the wife? Bought two guns instead of one. . . .

[QUOTEbut I know how a good marriage works, been doing it myself for awhile now.][/QUOTE]

So why are you on here asking questions? LOL.



Seriously, be honest, but don't apologize too much because you have a certain amount of duty to be prepared to protect her. Be humble, but don't grovel to her, yet it's important that you have trust, that she knows above all that she can count on what comes out your mouth to be the truth, even if she does not like it.

Tell her that it was too good of a deal to pass up and that it would have cost you significantly more to wait. Some things are like that. Then tell her that it is her turn. Women can smell unfairness a mile away so you need to put her inline for as much as the gun cost you. Tell her that you want to be fair about it and then make it your mission to do it for her. Perhaps even for a little more than the pistol costs. Women feel good when they get the big end of the stick. Give her all the money from your next side job and so forth until she's caught up and equal with you.

and rub her feet. Women are on their feet all day long and love a good foot rub. This will melt away a lot of anger and you can take that to the bank.
 
I've used a rather simple math equation for years that keeps the spouse happy. Whatever you pay for a firearm, simply divide it by two and tell the wife that was the purchase price ;)
 
I've used a rather simple math equation for years that keeps the spouse happy. Whatever you pay for a firearm, simply divide it by two and tell the wife that was the purchase price
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Easily done if she doesn't see the account that money came out of. For the OP's situation I doubt he has that kind of separation of finances.
 
Buy a Corvette. That will start a diverting argument, and she won't notice the gun. ;)

Seriously, thank you for your service.

I can't give practical advice. My problem would be to stop my wife from claiming them as her own.
 
here is your problem, you should NEVER need consent to buy a gun, as stated previously, "good marriages don't keep secrets"

So, she finally gives her CONSENT
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be up front and tell her, also tell her that in the future you will buy any gun you want and say "honey.., bought a gun today, how do you like it ?"

my first marriage (14 years) was a constant fight and secret, my present marriage (33 years) my wife encourages me to buy what ever gun i may want, plus all the ammo and reloading components i may need.., she is a gem of the highest quality.
 
4 Paws: How many years have you been married?

4 Paws: How many years have you been married?

Can't imagine getting away with that one after more than a few years.
 
My wife and I keep our money separate, and both contribute an agreed-upon amount to an account used to pay the house bills. This really works well, and keeps us from fighting about money almost completely.

What is left in my own account is mine to spend as I see fit, but Suzy is also very supportive of my gun/reloading hobbies and enjoys going to the range with me some of the time.

I'm a lucky guy. No secrets makes a happy, healthy marriage... We've both tried it the wrong way with other people in the past, and this way works better. ;)
 
(I'm going to get flamed for this but I'm doing it anyway , for the OP's protection.) To the OP. You might be cautious about utilizing advice from any post herein containing the phrase , " My first marriage ...."
 
BTDT.*

First, lock up the guns/ammo.

Little kids curiosity trumps their reason and discipline. When they are older, you should teach them gun safety, but when they are 3-5 ..... "don't touch that", and lock them up. .... and you really should, as a responsible parent, teach them gun safety, just as you should teach them to swim: guns are out there, just as deep water is ...... those are important life skills, and they should know how to deal with them...... the alternative is to allow them to persist in their ignorance, and hope they never encounter either one.....

That said, you seem to have gotten the cart before the horse- A Mosin and a Glock are not going to be real conducive to getting your wife intersted in shooting, nor really useful in teaching the tykes in a few years..... I suggest a .22 .......

* I have 5 kids, 16 down to just turned 8. Wife was averse to me getting a pistol when they were small, and looked at me like I'd lost my mind when I said I wanted a Carry Permit...... I have the permit, a modest collection of guns, and 2 daughters that hunt ..... Eldest shot trap in jr high ..... soon to be 10 year old son likes shooting my Ruger Frontier in 7-08 .... and given a set of shooting sticks, can pop milk jugs at 100-150 yards with almost boring regularity...
 
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Piling on with the lockbox idea, doesn't have to be expensive or fancy, just something to keep little prying fingers away. The LifeJacket item might work well for you.
Also, pick up a copy of Massad Ayoobs excellent pamphlet, "Gun Proof Your Children".
Come clean about it, tell her one of your main concerns was HER safety and the safety of your child. Get her involved if you can. Also, since this is your first handgun, prove to her you mean it about being a safe and responsible gun owner by getting some good local training, starting with the NRA Hunter Safety course and moving up. :)
 
4 Paws: How many years have you been married?

Can't imagine getting away with that one after more than a few years.
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Can't answer for 4 Paws, but I can say that it will work for quite awhile...like 30 years. It helps when the wife really isn't interested if the number is 1 or 100.

Yeah, sure, she'll be mad about it someday, but that's because she's selling them all after I'm dead and sees the original receipts.
 
She is going to see the gun some way and some how. I wouldnt leave it in a hidey hole in the garage if I had kids.

better to cross that bridge than when you are halfway around the world TDY. Bad news doesn't age like fine wine.

Wife's can count and they can remember details you can't. I think they let you think you have gotten away with that gun purchase.
 
So I finally told her as we talked before going to bed. I guess it worked out to my advantage that I told her on the same day I bought it (Saturday).

Of course she wasn't the happiest woman in the world, but she was glad I didn't keep the secret from her for longer than a day. I was hoping she'd be more angry than disappointmented; but no, she was more disappointed. Funny how woman can do that to you.

7 years down, at least 7 more to go right. :cool:

I did sleep on the couch Saturday night, lol.

The world is balanced again.
 
Beast - if it hasn't yet been mentioned in this thread, you need to reach Critical Mass - the point at which your wife doesn't have a clue how many guns you own. After that, you will have peace and harmony in your life.

Think of it this way - do you know how many purses or pairs of shoes your wife owns? Let's say you do and that there is not a kinky reason you know that - how much are those purses and shoes worth today, the day (or more) after she has used them? Now compare that to the immediate-sale value of your guns. You have investments, at least relative to purses and shoes. 'Nuff said.

Get your inventory to Critical Mass and life becomes way better, though one must remain conscious about the timing and method of the introduction of new brethren to the gun safe. It is all part of Life's Plan.
 
Does she tell you about every pair of shoes and handbags she gets? I think you're overthinking. Relax. It is just a gun. Do most men live in fear of their wives? :confused:
 
Do most men live in fear of their wives? :confused:
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I don't. And my wife doesn't live in fear of me.

Mutual respect is a good thing and has nothing to do with fear.

What's wrong with trying to keep each other happy?
 
Does she tell you about every pair of shoes and handbags she gets?
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the OP clearly stated in his post that large purchases are mulled over, talked about and debated with his wife. comparing a handgun purchase (a lethal weapon) to a pair of shoes or a purse is a false equivalency imo, unless those items cost hundreds of dollars each. you guys can't keep using the same argument to justify a firearm purchase, especially to someone who is new to firearms, has children in the house, does not have a gun safe and has a wife that dislikes guns.
 
So I finally told her as we talked before going to bed. I guess it worked out to my advantage that I told her on the same day I bought it (Saturday).

Of course she wasn't the happiest woman in the world, but she was glad I didn't keep the secret from her for longer than a day. I was hoping she'd be more angry than disappointmented; but no, she was more disappointed. Funny how woman can do that to you.

7 years down, at least 7 more to go right.

I did sleep on the couch Saturday night, lol.

The world is balanced again.
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well, it's good you came clean. again, look at it from your wife's viewpoint. even if you're in a good place financially, making impulse purchases just because you want something versus needing something are different things. your wife is probably thinking you've broken her trust, which you did, and that $400+ for a handgun would've gone a long way towards purchases for your children.

my wife is currently 12 weeks pregnant and this will be our first child. when I convinced my wife over a month ago to let me get another rifle it was under certain conditions, that it cost a certain amount and that it's stored in a gunsafe. I also knew that with a baby on the way I probably wouldn't be making any firearm purchases for awhile, so if I was going to get one it's now or never. the point is, I had my wife's consent and I budgeted for it. I maintain our finances in the house so I know exactly how much we have in savings and how much expendable income we have. We're not hurting by any means and I do put a decent portion of our paychecks into our savings account for the baby fund. I personally don't think lying to your wife behind her back was a wise move. believe me, i've had the exact same thought as you and probably posted a similar question on the forum at some point, but in the end I took the advice of most of the members here and talked to my wife openly and honestly about guns. so far it's worked out
 
Just be careful! When I met my woman, she asked "why do you need all those guns and fishing poles"? Well to date she now has more poles than I do! She now loves to shoot MY guns and MY ammo. Now she is looking for a handgun she can call HER OWN! Sad part is I probably wont be able to use it but will still have to supply the ammo for it.
 
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