Doug, the advice to try several guns at a range until you find something that suits you was good advice; however if thats not possible, what I'd try to do is buy a used steel framed ex-police department revolver in 38 Special, for something less than $300. That way, you can use it for as long as you like - for a lifetime if you want to - or, if you want to buy something more exotic later, you can sell the service revolver and possibly even make money out of it. Even in a worst case scenario, where the economy tanks, you couldn't lose much. These guns are usually heavy enough so that they don't recoil much if at all, but they're not so heavy that they would detrimentally affect your marksmanship. (You don't have to be a muscle man to handle one of these. There are a lot of frail female 38 Special shooters.)
You can buy a used 38 Special service revolver just about anywhere but you usually get the best prices from those dealers who purchase large quantities from police departments at a good price and then retail them out. The last large batch of 38 Special police guns like that that I saw advertised on-line were being sold about a year ago by J&G Sales (they may still have a few) but they were double-action only as I recall, which would be ok for HD but not great for target shooting.
There are many advantages to owning a 38 Special service revolver, especially if it can be fired in either single or double action mode. Most such revolvers that were manufactured after about 1950 are capable of firing +P ammunition, at least occasionally, but be sure before you buy. (I wouldn't buy one that wouldn't handle at least an occasional lite diet of +P rounds, because in my opinion you need +P Hollow Points for HD.) Standard velocity round nose and wadcutter ammo is best for your target and plinking needs. Its also realitively inexpensive ammo. One of the best things about any revolver is that you can load a chamber with one or two specialty rounds for use in emergency or particular situations. For example, I always keep at least one cylinder of mine loaded with a CCI shotshell because it gives me a very deadly minishotgun for snake duty. (Lots of cottonmouth moccasins around here.)
Last but not least, most people can learn to shoot a 38 Special service revolver with great accuracy because its such a user-friendly, fun gun to shoot.
PS: Some people say purchase a 357 revolver and shoot 38 Special ammo in it, the idea being that gives you "versatility" but I don't recommend that. If you buy a 357, it'll just cost you more than a comparable 38 Special revolver will, and it'll be heavier than a comparable 38 Special revolver would be, and if you're recoil sensitive, you'll probably never fire a round of 357 magnum in it. Or maybe you'll fire one, but not many more. (Most people who own 357's never shoot 357 magnum ammo in them, and if they did, the recoil and blast would probably detrimentally affect their accuracy.)
You can buy a used 38 Special service revolver just about anywhere but you usually get the best prices from those dealers who purchase large quantities from police departments at a good price and then retail them out. The last large batch of 38 Special police guns like that that I saw advertised on-line were being sold about a year ago by J&G Sales (they may still have a few) but they were double-action only as I recall, which would be ok for HD but not great for target shooting.
There are many advantages to owning a 38 Special service revolver, especially if it can be fired in either single or double action mode. Most such revolvers that were manufactured after about 1950 are capable of firing +P ammunition, at least occasionally, but be sure before you buy. (I wouldn't buy one that wouldn't handle at least an occasional lite diet of +P rounds, because in my opinion you need +P Hollow Points for HD.) Standard velocity round nose and wadcutter ammo is best for your target and plinking needs. Its also realitively inexpensive ammo. One of the best things about any revolver is that you can load a chamber with one or two specialty rounds for use in emergency or particular situations. For example, I always keep at least one cylinder of mine loaded with a CCI shotshell because it gives me a very deadly minishotgun for snake duty. (Lots of cottonmouth moccasins around here.)
Last but not least, most people can learn to shoot a 38 Special service revolver with great accuracy because its such a user-friendly, fun gun to shoot.
PS: Some people say purchase a 357 revolver and shoot 38 Special ammo in it, the idea being that gives you "versatility" but I don't recommend that. If you buy a 357, it'll just cost you more than a comparable 38 Special revolver will, and it'll be heavier than a comparable 38 Special revolver would be, and if you're recoil sensitive, you'll probably never fire a round of 357 magnum in it. Or maybe you'll fire one, but not many more. (Most people who own 357's never shoot 357 magnum ammo in them, and if they did, the recoil and blast would probably detrimentally affect their accuracy.)