Originally posted by 44 AMP
This might be simply due to the fact that the people who couldn't pull the trigger are not around to have their stories told. And, the very likely fact that those who didn't pull the trigger and did survive aren't admitting to, or bragging about not shooting.
That may be true to some degree, but not every act of self-defense requires the trigger to be pulled. While admittedly rare, I have heard/read stories of people who were put in situations that were resolved by simply displaying/brandishing a gun who, afterwards, were quoted with things like "I'm so glad he was scared off, I don't think I could have brought myself to actually shoot him." As I said though, these instances are very rare both because, as you point out, a lot of people who can't make themselves shoot don't survive to talk about it and a lot of people who don't think they could shoot find out that they can indeed when a true life-or-death situation presents itself.
Most people who had a relatively moral upbringing have been taught it is wrong to shoot people when its not clearly a life or death situation. Military combat involves life or death situations, but they range from immediate to less easily recognized threats.
This is true and the reason that I think so many people don't
believe that they could kill someone if necessary. That being said, survival instinct and fight-or-flight is a powerful thing, more powerful that many give it credit for, and unless someone has been in a true life-or-death emergency, they might be surprised at what they're capable of under the right (or perhaps wrong) circumstances.
Another factor is how often "moral objection" is used as a cover for panic or inability to operate under extreme stress. I've worked in the medical profession for over a decade and, because of that, I've been in a number of emergent, life-or-death situations. It is surprising how many well-educated, well-trained people often with years of experience lose their ability to make decisions when the code blue alarm goes off. I have to wonder how many people who later said "I just couldn't bring myself to kill someone" said so because that still gives them some semblance of moral high-ground and thus, in their mind, is preferable to being thought incompetent or cowardly.
Shooting at the enemy who is hiding in the trees a few hundred yards away is a different level of "immediate" than when the enemy is eight feet from you clearly, actively trying to kill you.
Sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn't. I agree that an "enemy" hundreds of yards away who is hiding and simply trying not to be shot himself isn't as "immediate" a threat as one climbing into your foxhole at O-dark-thirty. However, an enemy a few hundred yards away who is actively shooting at me with a rifle that's capable of killing me at that distance is a bit more "immediate" a threat, particularly if I don't have a ready avenue of escape and/or adequate cover/concealment.
For some people shooting "at" the enemy some distance away is a different thing that shooting the guy trying to get in your position.
Agreed, but how it's "different" would, I think, depend on the person. Some might have a more difficult time shooting at the enemy a great distance away because they don't perceive him as an imminent threat. Others, however, might find shooting at a far-away enemy to be easier because they're "just shooting at a fleeting shape" and don't immediately have to see/think about it being an actual person they're trying to injure or kill. We don't seem to hear about nearly as many cases of PTSD from artillery crews or the crews of battleships and bombers because, even though they rationally "know" that their enemies are people and that their actions are taking the enemies' lives, they usually don't have to see it as up-close and personal as infantry troops do.
The military recognizes this inhibition, and how some troops don't have it at all, some have it to a degree, and the ultimate degree, the conscientious objector. They have spent a lot of effort over many generations training troops to not see the enemy as people, but things to be shot. Derisive slang names and terms are a part of that.
I don't disagree, but I think that the training you reference has more to do with overcoming the objection to shooting enemies who are indirect rather than direct or eventual rather than immediate threats to the individual soldier. A suicide bomber several hundred yards away presents no direct threat to the sniper aiming at him through his riflescope, but he does represent a threat to the sniper's friends and allies. Likewise, the enemy soldiers trying to escape the burning bunker may not be an immediate threat to the soldier who sees them, but they will be a threat if they're allowed to escape and regroup into a counterattack.
These gray areas between direct vs indirect and immediate vs eventual threats are, I think, where a great deal of the issues in civilian self-defense stems from. While the exact details of the laws on self-defense can vary significantly from one jurisdiction to another, most of the self-defense laws in the United States have the threshold for justified lethal force as "legitimate fear of imminent death or great bodily injury" or some other wording similar to that. The problem is that what constitutes a "legitimate" fear and what constitutes an "imminent" threat are both subject to a great deal of interpretation. For example, many people would say that someone in a vehicle who is screaming, making profane gestures, and gunning their engine at a pedestrian represents an imminent threat because the motorist has already demonstrated that they are enraged/deranged and could, at any moment, utilize their vehicle as a deadly weapon. Other people, however, would say that the motorist is not an imminent threat because the pedestrian does not know that the motorist isn't just a loud-mouthed paper tiger. This is largely where issues like disparity of force, mutual combat, and justifiable distances come from.
I also find Grossman's assertation that refusing to shoot the enemy and/or intentionally missing the enemy due to moral objection was commonplace during the civil war to be dubious because, at that time in history, the killing of another person was legal and considered socially and morally acceptable for a wider variety of reasons that is the case today. For example, throughout most of the 18th, 19th, and even early 20th century, using deadly force to protect property and prevent the theft of certain items was more widely accepted legally, morally, and socially than is the case today. This is because, at that time, it was understood that while the theft of a man's livestock, crops, or other goods may not immediately put his life in jeopardy, the loss of such items could very likely put his life in danger eventually due to factors like exposure or starvation. Obviously today the loss of property is much less likely to put one's life in jeopardy due to a variety of social, economic, demographic, and technological changes that have happened over the last 100+ years, but there are still cases where it is a possibility. Even so, it is unlikely that the person who shoots someone trying to steal his vehicle in the desert or someone trying to steal a life-sustaining medical device or medication would be looked upon kindly be it legally or socially. I find it difficult to believe that moral objection to shooting an enemy in a war were more common in the era of hanging horse thieves than they are today.