Wreck, that's because, like I said before, you are comparing internally ported barrels with barrels of the same length. That is NOT the comparison that we are making with the OP's gun. We are comparing a LONGER externally ported barrel. A longer barrel (with no holes) will almost always provide more pressure. An extended ported barrel, like the OP, has yet more barrel length then porting so the pressure builds up before the ports. There are no noticeable disruptive forces that slow the bullet down from porting, only a loss of gas pressure. But in the case of screw on compensators, barrel bushing compensators, or extended ported barrels, there will be no loss of pressure when compared with a factory length barrel.
Watch Jerry Miculek's video and you can see the difference porting makes with something like a 9mm. Or watch the video you posted yourself (the example is a 9mm again). It's cool if you don't want to like porting. There are reasons not to like it, but then again, nobody is making you buy a ported gun. I have a porting/compensating sickness, I'll admit, but science is with me.
I'll admit that there is a point of diminishing returns on extending the barrel length, but the OP has not hit this point. You'd need something longer than a carbine barrel to do that with 10mm:
http://www.ballisticsbytheinch.com/10mm.html
So, what you are saying is simply not true. If you have a factory length barrel and add porting out the front, you lose nothing. If you have a longer than factory length barrel, then port it out front, you only gain.
Or differently said, you are correct only when comparing factory length barrels with internal porting with regards to a loss of velocity.
Porting isn't about thinking that the recoil is "too much for me" unless you are talking magnum guns. Porting is about improving your performance and split times between shots. Once again, there is a reason people win races with porting and that limited divisions won't allow porting. Porting simply offers the shooter an advantage. You can tout your proficiency or manliness and say, "I shoot well," but you could shoot faster (not more accurately but faster) with porting than without it. Think of it like having a custom trigger on your gun. Sure, you can shoot well without it, but you could shoot even better with a better trigger.
In general, porting is kind of unpleasant. Most beginning shooters will be bothered by porting on a pistol, which is why I have different barrel sets on my guns.