ETA- Skans: Pretty much everything you said is dead wrong. Haven't you ever learned a task requiring fast and correct manual dexterity?
I've been handling and shooting guns for over 25 years. Never had an accidental discharge. Never had any problem following rules at whatever range I've shot at. Never had anyone admonish me about how I handle firearms in front of them.
I am
reasonable, but not obsessive in the way I handle a firearm. My brain is connected to my trigger finger - it doesn't act on its own and doesn't have any memory of its own either. If I am checking out a "noise" in my house in the middle of the night, my finger has no problem whatsoever staying outside of the trigger guard along the frame - there's no muscle memory making it creep into the trigger guard or squirm behind the trigger.
When I'm disassembling a gun, my fingers get into all parts of the gun that they wouldn't dare find themselves during live firing. That doesn't mean that when I fire the gun, there is any chance at all that my trigger finger is going to work its way into the chamber either.
Now, some of you might say "well that's different.....when I'm cleaning a gun.....that's not the same thing.....".
Bullcrap. If you buy into that muscle memory junk science then your finger muscles don't know the difference between cleaning, fondling, handling, and shooting.
The bottom line is when I am handling an unloaded gun - i.e. one that I personally thoroughly checked, I permit myself to be more relaxed in the way I handle it. (No, that doesn't mean I point point the muzzle at anyone.) So do
most people, whether they want to admit it or not. At least, that's what I've observed. I didn't say everyone - you are always going to have some folks who are more obsessive than others about gun handling. In my opinion, that doesn't necessarily make them more or less safe than gun folks who handle guns like I do. Again, my track record is perfect.
I'd be curious to know how you know what everyone does. Apparently, you don't know what I do. And no, I never put my finger behind the trigger.
When it comes to how someone handles a gun while cleaning it or when handling it casually after checking to make sure its not loaded (which is what I was talking about - go back and read what you responded to) its a fair bet that we all do things a little differently. Certainly you and I do things differently.