A properly made bolt should last you a long time, given your relatively unstressful firing schedule. However, I have seen bolts break around the cam-pin hole, and I have lost a extractor roll pin before (this was back when I was new to the AR).
You don't *need* another bolt carrier group. I have a spare but have yet to use any parts from it in about ~7,000 rounds over 2 years. For now, the $150 or so is better spent towards ammunition and training. A days worth of training will go a long way towards familiarizing you with that AR.
With respect to .223 Bore brushes, I have never had to force a brass brush through the bore. Usually, the brush will engage the rifling and rotate as I pass the cleaning rod through my barrel.
Lawscholar, the brush you have is most likely for use in cleaning the chamber and barrel extension (or sometimes called the 'star chamber'--funny law joke if you get it). I would NOT force that brush any further than the chamber. You can use that brush to give the chamber and extension a good scrubbing, then patch it with CLP and clean up the rest with Q-tips. The malfunctions you experienced after about 100 rounds were likely from the lack of lubricant--ARs like to run wet, especially if your Daniel Defense was as dry and dirty as mine was when I received it.
I'm usually pretty sloppy with my lubrication. I'll put some on the inside of the receiver and by the vent holes, then rack the action a few times. The action should feel nice and smooth (if it's gritty, it's usually either dirty or unlubricated). However, if you want to be particular about it, the Bolt Carrier rides on 4 load bearing points:
Lube those points
Also lube the bottom as shown here:
Finally, I usually like it if the bolt carrier has a nice coat of CLP on it.*
YMMV, as always. There are some real SMEs on this forum who will probably correct me. This has worked for me in the couple of years of extensively shooting the AR, so I hope this helps.