dating women and guns???

I've been married for 26 years and my wife has never shot a gun. I don't think that should be something that you demand in your selection process, just something that if your girlfriend likes to do is an added bonus.
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agreed
 
dating women and guns???

Women are more fun.

Guns are still a lot of fun- and much more cost effective entertainment. )

Seriously...

My advice for gun aficionados of either gender, who seeking lifelong companions, is to establish a set of qualifiers which include a tolerance for firearms in the home. You guys might get lucky, like I did, and find a pretty gal who grew up in a home where they were part of everyday life. Mine loves to shoot, has her own guns (oddly, most of them used to be MY guns...) and the biggest problem I have with her is that she shoots me out of reloads occasionally. Looses my .45 ACP brass, too.

But these are problems I can live with.
 
I was shooting long before I got married.

My wife isn't rabid about guns but she likes to shoot a bit and to hunt.

The main thing about my wife is she'd much better like to see me in on my range shooting then hanging around a bar drinking.

She did get concerned about breaking in and getting my guns, she bought me my safe.

She has never complained about my guns or shooting. Even bought me a few.
 
I was into guns long before I met my wife. The subject never really came up until we fell in love and decided to marry. I then found out that her brother had been killed at age 14 in a hunting accident.

I was fearful that she would be anti gun, but soon realized she was not. She understands the need for firearms. She is not a shooter, but she has her pistol permit.

Things worked out fine.
 
I wanted a good wife of the Proverbs 31 type, and not a range partner. But if a range partner is that important to you in a wife, then find out early and if they do not fit the bill go on.
However, there are so many things important in a marriage, and in my opinion their love of guns and shooting is almost minutia.
Jerry
 
Not a real requirement that she has to like to shoot them, fortunately my fiance does :D. But if I was just meeting someone they would have to understand I'm not getting rid of them. She doesn't like it when I carry when I'm walking around with her at the mall or just out. She does ask me if I have it though when we go driving. It's a 4 hour drive to see the parents and we usually do it once a month or so when we can. And usually we drive at night because she gets finished with work at around 1800.

In her own words, "It makes me feel better that if someone tries to cause trouble they have a .45 and the Marine holding it to sway their decision on how to continue."

Love her to death. (the woman)
 
I saw the thread title and thought ...........

Hmmm, I think I'd rather date guns.

1) My Sig does not get jealous if I take my Colt to the range.
2) My Para-Ordnance does not whine if I put a new mag well on the Ruger.
3) None of the S&W's yell at me for pulling the trigger prematurely.

Etc, etc, etc.

Kidding, wife is a shooter and better to me than I deserve.
 
What I always told myself that the girl i dated didn't have to like anything I do, but it would be nice that she accepted it and maybe went ahead and did the things IO liked to do occasionally because she likes me. So when I met my girlfriend I let her know straight out that i loved to fish and shoot guns, and surprisingly she was cool with it more than cool actually she had a closet full of guns from her late grandfather but she never shot them. I have since got her to try them out and many other guns.

I even bought her a deer rifle for christmas, we went to the gun show and both came out with handguns!!:D An FNX for me and a CZ75 SP01 for her. Now like some previous comments having your girlfriend shoot is a double edged sword, you don't want to see my ammo bill:(. And she does not have the stamina to shoot for hours like i do, so our range sessions are usually 2 hours at the most she won't make me leave but she will stop shooting and just sit down and watch me. Which makes me feel bad making her wait. Bottomline is don't worry about it so much if you find someone you like your personalities should be at least somewhat compatible so hopefully she will have an open mind. ;)
 
Its a deal breaker for me. Luckily the girl im dating felt my G26 when she unexpectedly put her arm around me. She later showed me her G19 and suggested a range date.

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I've dated women who are into guns and women who aren't. Its a very low priority issue with me. The woman I married doesn't care much about guns, but she doesn't hate them either - other traits were far more important to me than her sharing my gun hobby. We've been married for about 12 years - dated a couple years prior to that, guns have never been a problem at all.
 
My fiancé had never shot a gun till a took her to the range. She didn't like guns at all. It took some convincing on my part, but now she loves it. She'll shoot about anything.
 
My wife is indifferent. She likes guns for cosmetic reasons. When we go to pawn shops and stuff she looks at everything else other than guns. She doesn't breathe guns like I do but she does on occasion tell me how she like a certain gun. I know that she would be down to go to the range on a date. I want to teach her more before I hand her a loaded pistol in close proximity to my face. lol. Keep looking and you will find the right one.
 
I must be one of the more lucky ones. before we got married my wife used to do civil war reenactments with artillery, the only problem I have when I get a gun she wants to know when she can get her a cannon. and more recent a 1911.
 
The wife won’t let me date women anymore, but she lets me go on dates with my guns.;)

When we first met she wasn’t wild about guns and was a little anti towards AKs and other scary looking stuff. Now she looks at the "uglier" stuff kinda like I look at her pottery ..... "huh? What for? Nevermind *kiss*"

She actually likes shooting a scoped 10-22 when I can get her to go. She dislikes shooting her .44 ... mostly because it bruises her hand (she has very small lightly boned hands). Got her to try different less obnoxious revolvers, but she always chose to keep the .44 as her primary. She likes a 1911, but not to carry.

Went through a really dry spell for a few years, shooting wise. Then the kids got old enough to start shooting. She likes seeing the kids enjoy themselves and becoming skillful in their interests. Anyway, shooting as a family activity has been pretty good. Sometimes she’s the one that suggests we go out.
 
While I won't necessarily require a woman I'm interested in to be "in to" guns per se, if the relationship is serious she will have to understand that firearms are part of my life that isn't going to change.

Personally, I think that it's best for everyone involved if an understanding about such topics is reached early on in the relationship. Any potential spouse must understand that I will not get rid of my firearms, I will continue to carry, and if we have children they will also be taught to safely handle a gun at the appropriate age. If she cannot accept these or a few other non-firearm-related aspects of my personality, then it's probably best that we go our separate ways early on before either of us get too emotionally involved to prevent a messy breakup.

Also, while I won't try to force anyone into anything, I would much prefer a romantic partner that is at least willing to learn how to use a firearm. My reasoning is this: I'm rather old-fashioned in that I believe that it is a man's duty to provide safety to his family. Because I cannot be in my spouse's presence 100% of the time, the only way to ensure that she is always safe is to provide her the means to defend herself in my absence.
 
A good woman is more precious than diamonds.

We don't wed a single aspect we go for the whole person. The woman doesn't have to like our guns they have to like us.
Make yourself a likable enough person and even gun hating girls will put up with your guns.
 
I would be careful on this issue. When you are dating, I'm imagining that you have some idea that you are dating in an effort to promote from dating to GF to wife.

Women and guns is a tricky subject. Frankly, I would avoid the subject during the early dating phase, because it is a waste of your time to discuss and she may start a texting rampage which let's everyone in 5 states know you are CCW'ing right NOW!

When you are thinking Date to GF, I would broach the subject and even suggest you go shooting together. If the answer is a flat no, I would suggest you move on or at least don't promote. If there is some opportunity to figure out why, that would be good. I find women in general to be relatively gun unfamiliar. I think this is a society problem. Girls often get left out of shooting fun as children and never try it because it feels like a forbidden pastime. When you offer, it should break through those barriers.

At the GF to wife promo, get this right. Guns can be a regular marriage argument, if you go not. I've met plenty of women open to the idea of shooting. You can meet a shooter. It is hard to promo to wife someone who will not partake in shooting with you. If you do, expect 30 years of arguments about purchases, reloading, strange smells, why are you carrying again and other BS.

My wife is just starting to come around to CCW being normal, but she still targets buying guns as a waste of money in our household. It would be sooooo much better if we saw eye to eye on this. I just took crap for joining the range and asking the kids to shoot on youth day at the range!
 
if the relationship is serious she will have to understand that firearms are part of my life that isn't going to change
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When Suzy and I met 13-14 years ago she knew that I was a shooter, though I wasn't as involved with it as I am now. She wasn't anti-gun, but she wasn't exactly comfortable around them either. She now enjoys going to the range with me once in awhile, though she may never become an avid shooter.

If she ever told me I had to make a choice between her or the guns, she knows which way that decision would go. Any woman who "makes" her man give up his guns for the relationship is incredibly selfish and is one to avoid at all costs.
 
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