dating women and guns???

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So, is it very important for you to date a woman whos into guns? I would want my GF/WIFE to love to shoot guns, I asked a few women out to the gun range with me and they say noo. Not really against them but they dont want to. So far its 3 to 0 asking them out to the range, I think its a bad start.


Do any of you guys GF/WIFE dislike guns? how is that for you at home?
 
Lol, this post made me laugh a little, only because I've BTDT.

All I can do is share my own experience:

I owned guns when I met my wife, and she was aware, and didn't seem to mind too much, but when I got my CCW she hated the idea, and didn't want me carrying. She didn't really grow up in an anti-gun house, but guns were absent. Oddly enough, she never minded me being a hunter. She eventually realized I wasn't going to stop carrying, and is actually ok with it now. As a matter of fact, she has checked to make sure I was armed a few times, when in not so great areas of town.

That said, she still doesn't shoot, and I'm working on that now. It's a work in progress. :D

I say just find the girl, and the gun thing will sort itself out. At least that's been the case for me. Good luck man.

Jason
 
I just applied for my instate and FL non res permits, I told a woman tonight I was getting my permits. She said WHATS THAT? lol I was trying take her out shooting but non of that she wanted.

I think I gotta lay off on the gun, because it hasn't work for any women I have asked out while talking about it.
 
All due respect, but

I believe you have got your priorities backwards.

Find someone you like to spend time with. To be promoted from GF to wife, they need to someone you see being a buddy for the rest of you life.

If guns are more than just a part of your life, you need to bring more to the table. I wasn't shooting when I got married. My wife made the transition fine, b/c guns are a part of my life. She's a bigger part. It's a 2 way street. If guns are a part of your life, then your gf/other will accept that, as long as you and she share a larger portion of your life. If she doesn't accept that lesser portion of your life, then move on. It's the same as any other interest.

Sorry, that might sound harsh. I'm not trying to be a douche.
 
My wife likes guns and has a concealed-permit, so it's not an issue for me.

As far as the girls you're dating - are you asking them right off the bat if they want to go shooting?
If so, I could see how it might rattle them a bit. It can be an intense activity for someone who's never done it. Perhaps ease them into your gun world a little at a time.
 
women, and people in general, have specific ideas about guns and the people who use them. they also have ideas about comical things.

(ive yet to meet a woman who wanted a 'cowboy", but forgot to mention "rhinestone cowboy' and not a eal cow boy who smelled like cow manure cuz he was out playing with a pet steer and ran around in manure in bare feet. its actualy fun to do)

women can see it in several ways

it can mean that your self aware and wont be easily controlled by her.
or it can mean that youll never vote for who you want.
or it can be a simplerealization that shes not the spoiled princess she wants to be.

best to sumarize. keep your guns. women come and go very quickly. a nice well oiled, say model 29 that shoots half inch groups at 50 yards off hand wont be going away at all.
 
keep your guns. women come and go very quickly. a nice well oiled, say model 29 that shoots half inch groups at 50 yards off hand wont be going away at all.
Words to live by, very true.
 
ive yet to meet a woman who wanted a 'cowboy", but forgot to mention "rhinestone cowboy' and not a eal cow boy who smelled like cow manure cuz he was out playing with a pet steer and ran around in manure in bare feet. its actualy fun to do

Marry a horse vet, worked for me. ;) Change steer to horses and you have my wife.

She also carries concealed and can out shoot me with at a bird hunt any day.
 
It's not that important for her to like guns and shooting, but it's important that she not hate them. Most of all, it's tremendously important that you get things out in the open quickly rather than having them crop up later when it's harder to work things out.

A coworker of mine married a woman who wasn't into guns. But she didn't have any problem with him having guns and shooting them. At least not until she got pregnant. At that point she laid down an ultimatum and he was forced to get rid of all his guns. That was years ago, and as far as I know, he still doesn't have any firearms in the house.

I'm not saying that you should bring up the topic of children and guns on the first date, but I'd certainly want to have talked about it a couple of times before things got really serious.

A lot of people think that the opposite situation (a mate who loves guns & shooting) must be ideal, and while it's tremendously better than marrying someone who hates guns, it has some minor disadvantages too. My wife likes shooting, and as a result, we do most of our shooting together.

This shouldn't be seen as complaining, but in the interest of total honesty, I have to point out that because we do most of our shooting together, everything costs more. I pay an extra range fee, an extra match entry fee, an extra ticket into the gun show, more for ammo and targets, more for cleaning supplies, and yes, more for guns. On the other hand, it's very simple for me to justify a large ammo buy, a new gun, more magazines, etc. because she understands and is often getting the benefit of those things too. And I don't have to trade a load of husband points to go to a gunshow because she understands the attraction and usually wants to go with me. Of course, there can be a bit of a downside to that as well, because although she wants to go, she usually doesn't want to spend nearly as much time there as I would. A similar situation can crop up with a range trip when we both go--it's not uncommon for me to be not quite ready to go when she's had enough.

So there are benefits AND disadvantages to having a mate who shares your hobby.

I would guess that the absolutely ideal situation would be someone who enjoys guns and likes shooting them but maybe isn't into them as much as a dedicated hobbyist would be. Maybe even someone who sees their value as self-defense tools but doesn't care much about the recreational aspects of firearms. Someone who will go to the range with you once in awhile when you ask and who will genuinely have fun on those occasions. But someone who doesn't necessarily want to go every single time you go and who doesn't feel left out if you want to run to the range or the gunshow by yourself on occasion or even most of the time. Someone who doesn't have a problem with guns in the house and maybe even has one or two of her own but someone who doesn't get a yen for a new firearm too often.

One of my coworkers has a wife who fits that description and he's pretty happy with his situation. Although, come to think of it, I believe he thinks he'd be better off if she were more into guns. Could be a grass is greener thing... :D
 
I was casually talking a girl and for the heck of it told her I was looking to get a conceal carry gun and named off my choices. She said "get the glock, I have a glock 19."

I went out and bought a glock...and her and I have been dating for a little over a year now.
 
I've got a friend that doesn't like guns at all. She knows I carry though and has asked that when I stay over, I leave my CCW in my car and not bring it in her house.

Met up with an old friend that I haven't seen in 14yrs yesterday. When she hugged me she felt my HK USPc in my hip. Asked what it was and I told her, said "cool, I've been thinking about getting my CHL". :)
 
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The romatic side (which is pretty small) says all that matters is love..lol.


If it is really that important to you then keep looking, but at the same time what if the man she is looking for has to be into going to "purse partys, and make up party's" with her????
 
women and guns

i know of one instant on the first date guns were fine. one year later with that ring one her finger it was like flipping a switch. TOTALLY rabid anti gun. not me and mine though. my wife carries and quite often out shoots me.
 
I've always made them well aware, and I've been caught red-handed plenty of nights staying up late reading these forums. I've never met a woman that didn't want me because of my affinity for collecting and shooting firearms. For most intelligent and beautiful creatures, the gun is never the issue when love is at stake.
 
Do any of you guys GF/WIFE dislike guns? how is that for you at home?

my wife dislikes guns but isn't anti-gun per se. for the time being she won't let me have a gun in the house but she's loosening up a bit on it. I think it's important to be respectful of others views towards firearms. everyone is entitled to their own opinions on the matter but the only way to get people to see where you're coming from is to educate them and maybe invite them to the range with you so they can experience shooting sports for themselves. now, if you're the type that likes to beat people over the head about 2A rights then you're less likely to get a sympathy vote imo. my wife knows I like guns and it's going to take time for her to understand that, but i'm not going to force her to like guns because I do
 
I'm kind of on the same page as johnKSa. When I first started shooting I was so envious of the women on these forums that talked about going shooting w/ their significant other because my husband simply is not into guns. He's supportive of my "hobby" and never complains when I tell him I'm going to the range, but he has never wanted to go with me as many times as I've asked him.

However, now I'm glad that he doesn't want to shoot. When I go to the range, it's MY time. It's my stress reliever - especially if I'm not too happy with him about something! I know that if I need some alone time, all I have to do is tell him I'm going to the range! :)
 
However, now I'm glad that he doesn't want to shoot. When I go to the range, it's MY time. It's my stress reliever - especially if I'm not too happy with him about something! I know that if I need some alone time, all I have to do is tell him I'm going to the range!

that's kind of how I feel. my wife has made it pretty clear she has no interest in going to the range with me, but that's not necessarily a bad thing either. I look at it as time for myself to relax and relieve stress. if I took the missus to the range and she wasn't having fun, then i'm not having fun.
 
I've been married for 26 years and my wife has never shot a gun. I don't think that should be something that you demand in your selection process, just something that if your girlfriend likes to do is an added bonus.
 
For a permanent relationship you have to have a lot of things in common.
Politics and guns are among those 'things'. If you can't get together on those, and other, matters the relationship will fail.
Go ahead and date. Commonalities and differences will come out eventually then you both decide whether or not to pursue the relationship.
 
I married my best friend. Fortunately for me (male) she is female! I taught my wife to shoot and told her that if she ever caught me cheating on her she had my absolute permission to shoot me and whoever I was with. About every third gun we purchase is a gun for her. She has a CHL. We have been married for nearly 25 years!
 
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