I guess you will see what you want to. I saw a movie that was brilliant. It showed a man whos total outlook on life had changed due to experiences that he never thought would occur. It showed a bitter old man realizing that he was the reason for his distance with his children and for his feelings against other people.
I didn't see it that way. I saw a man of good inner values, who lost the ability to communicate with others except for his abrasive, defensive methods. Even with the priest, his barber buddy, and others, he was a rascal, to say the least. However, the Hmong neighbors, who appealed to his inner values of obedience, respect of elders, politeness, etc, cracked through his crusty veneer and brought out the good guy inside. When he said, "I have more in common with this family than I do my own," he was saying that they, unlike the modern man, shared his core values.
I don't think he "changed," I think they just triggered his frequency.