I'm not a Doctor,lawyer,or shrink. I don't know what I'm talking about,and anything I say could be wrong! That's a disclaimer.
I don't know if this makes a difference,but "Depression" has multiple meanings.It CAN actually be an illness,chemical imbalance. But it can also be a "mood disorder"
We all go through grief and loss. "Depression" IS a stage of the Kubler-Ross grief process.Its also perfectly normal.
Parenting is tough,homes break up,some parents are better or worse than others.That has a lot to do with the social skills and level of maturity an adult person might have.
A whole lot of pain,angst,suffering and destructive behavior can come from being a 15 year old in a 30 year old body.
One recipe for depression is to be unskilled in dealing with fear and anger.A diet of eating fear and anger will lead to a weight gain of depression.
What CAN happen,is a person can recognize A) This is not working B) I do not seem to be finding the answer alone C) Perhaps someone can help.
Once that occurs,it is possible for a person to make progress on the path of growing up.
Motivation to continue growing up comes from life just working better.
The person who on their own reaches for some help BEFORE they hurt themselves or someone else GROWS.
The person who keeps their jaws clenched and says "I'm fine,I don't need that" Might be right...or not.
But I'd rather go fishing with a person who has owned their problems and grown through them than a person who denies their problems,and sees them as other people problems.
There ARE,for example,paranoid schizophrenics that I can have compassion for.They live in an often painful alternative reality. It might not be good for them to be armed.
Don't get me wrong,the person who IS a 15 year old in a 30 year old body CAN be dangerous. They can behave in a way that indicates...well,maybe a 15 year old is not ready for an AK-47,.They might demonstrate that on the Jerry Springer show.
But making a phone call and asking for help is something we should encourage.
Now,as far as our Veterans:
First,I'm not a Veteran. I don't know what I'm talking about.I'm respectfully giving my best,even if I'm wrong.
These Men and Women go where they are sent,and do the job they are told to do. Multiple deployments,some lose their spouses and families.Some lose the jobs they had when deployed.
They experience the horrific things that come with the job. I won't even try to describe what I cannot know.
Many have had the organ "Brain" slammed around,multiple times.
When we,the non Veterans,and politicians, view our Veterans with fear and suspicion,rather than Respect,and maybe just a little appreciation and compassion, When We,and our lawmakers,or more likely UNELECTED,BUREAUCRAT authors of regulations....treat our Veterans with something like:
"So,when you experienced that IED blast,and what it did to your friends,do you have any unhappy after effects?" or " How do you feel about the foreign troop you were training who started shooting in class" .How do you feel about coming home to see your family,but its different now?"
What sane,normal person would NOT have some wounds to their Soul?
When a stupid idea like A) get the Veteran to reveal pain B) then pronounce Him/Her a flawed,defective Human Being,forbidden to keep His/Her guns????
It is particularly despicable for anti-gunners to prey on the vulnerabilities of these Veterans. To inject platform politics into confidentiality of a relationship with a councilor betrays and destroys the essential element of Trust that MUST form for a councilor to be effective. So our Veteran is robbed again.
Our society,who treats our Veterans this way,is a large part of why over 20 of our Veterans a day kill themselves.
Not just a cute slogan, "Thank You For Your Service!" recognize and respect them.
Dignity. The Dignity of a Home,a Job,.. Coming Home..And sometime,quiet space for solitude as necessary. Resources for Veterans to help Veterans.
We need to open our ears and listen to Veterans tell us what will help.I don't think they will ask for too much.Maybe that we just keep our promises.
Stop treating our Veterans as freaks. ESPECIALLY,our Federal Government and theVA.
I don't know if this makes a difference,but "Depression" has multiple meanings.It CAN actually be an illness,chemical imbalance. But it can also be a "mood disorder"
We all go through grief and loss. "Depression" IS a stage of the Kubler-Ross grief process.Its also perfectly normal.
Parenting is tough,homes break up,some parents are better or worse than others.That has a lot to do with the social skills and level of maturity an adult person might have.
A whole lot of pain,angst,suffering and destructive behavior can come from being a 15 year old in a 30 year old body.
One recipe for depression is to be unskilled in dealing with fear and anger.A diet of eating fear and anger will lead to a weight gain of depression.
What CAN happen,is a person can recognize A) This is not working B) I do not seem to be finding the answer alone C) Perhaps someone can help.
Once that occurs,it is possible for a person to make progress on the path of growing up.
Motivation to continue growing up comes from life just working better.
The person who on their own reaches for some help BEFORE they hurt themselves or someone else GROWS.
The person who keeps their jaws clenched and says "I'm fine,I don't need that" Might be right...or not.
But I'd rather go fishing with a person who has owned their problems and grown through them than a person who denies their problems,and sees them as other people problems.
There ARE,for example,paranoid schizophrenics that I can have compassion for.They live in an often painful alternative reality. It might not be good for them to be armed.
Don't get me wrong,the person who IS a 15 year old in a 30 year old body CAN be dangerous. They can behave in a way that indicates...well,maybe a 15 year old is not ready for an AK-47,.They might demonstrate that on the Jerry Springer show.
But making a phone call and asking for help is something we should encourage.
Now,as far as our Veterans:
First,I'm not a Veteran. I don't know what I'm talking about.I'm respectfully giving my best,even if I'm wrong.
These Men and Women go where they are sent,and do the job they are told to do. Multiple deployments,some lose their spouses and families.Some lose the jobs they had when deployed.
They experience the horrific things that come with the job. I won't even try to describe what I cannot know.
Many have had the organ "Brain" slammed around,multiple times.
When we,the non Veterans,and politicians, view our Veterans with fear and suspicion,rather than Respect,and maybe just a little appreciation and compassion, When We,and our lawmakers,or more likely UNELECTED,BUREAUCRAT authors of regulations....treat our Veterans with something like:
"So,when you experienced that IED blast,and what it did to your friends,do you have any unhappy after effects?" or " How do you feel about the foreign troop you were training who started shooting in class" .How do you feel about coming home to see your family,but its different now?"
What sane,normal person would NOT have some wounds to their Soul?
When a stupid idea like A) get the Veteran to reveal pain B) then pronounce Him/Her a flawed,defective Human Being,forbidden to keep His/Her guns????
It is particularly despicable for anti-gunners to prey on the vulnerabilities of these Veterans. To inject platform politics into confidentiality of a relationship with a councilor betrays and destroys the essential element of Trust that MUST form for a councilor to be effective. So our Veteran is robbed again.
Our society,who treats our Veterans this way,is a large part of why over 20 of our Veterans a day kill themselves.
Not just a cute slogan, "Thank You For Your Service!" recognize and respect them.
Dignity. The Dignity of a Home,a Job,.. Coming Home..And sometime,quiet space for solitude as necessary. Resources for Veterans to help Veterans.
We need to open our ears and listen to Veterans tell us what will help.I don't think they will ask for too much.Maybe that we just keep our promises.
Stop treating our Veterans as freaks. ESPECIALLY,our Federal Government and theVA.
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