Buying new guns and staying out of the doghouse

Agreed. And for a lot of people, routinely being lied to by a spouse, especially about something as important as where joint funds (grocery money, for example) are going, would be a deal-breaker right there.

1. Happy Marriage = Joint bank account for household and "together" stuff and separate bank accounts for personal stuff.

2. Establish "general understanding" that you don't need to report every purchase made regarding your hobby; and your spouse doesn't need to report every purchase made concerning her hobby(ies). I don't think my wife wants to hear "Sooooo, how much did that pair of shoes set you back?"

3. Or, there's always: "I know, I got something fun; its your turn, what is it that you really want?"
 
The only gun my wife didnt know I bought until afterwards was a Ruger MkII that I had been looking to buy for a while. Saw one at a shop one day and it followed me home. Everything else I either asked if she minded, or straight up told her "I'm buying this!"

A handful of times she has brought up in arguments how much I spent on various guns, but I explained thats why I insist on sticking to a budget and why I try to make her stick to hers. I have money to splurge on myself (and her by the way) because I manage my finances, instead of blowing everything I earn and wind up broke between paychecks.

So when I do splurge on myself its never putting our ability to pay bills at risk.
 
The typical response I get from the LadyFriend when I float a new gun purchase is along the lines of

"Can you get it and still make the house/truck/engagement ring payment?"

Usually followed up after I reaffirm in the positive with something along the lines of: "Is this one that I'll actually like to shoot?"

A Scout is Trustworthy. :)
 
Some of you gents should have been introduced to cajun women.
My wife knows to not question my purchases, as I don't hers. She is free to go and buy as she wants as long as she remembers not to question me.

Side note; the last night force I bought, a buddy of mine knew for sure I was in the dawg house. So, I called up the lil' lady, and told her I bought a new scope. She asked how much it was. Me: $1.75 a yard. My buddy started giving me heck about being sly and borderline lying, when she replied(on speaker phone mind you), isn't that for your new 1k yard gun??? Lol....busted! That girl ain't no dummy.
 
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A gun/ammo fund is the only way to go!

Just keep putting a few bucks here and there aside and you'll have a good stash in no time. My wife knows I have such a fund and she has no problem with it.
If you can't do that then wait until she buys something, then make your purchase. Or buy her something nice prior, then buy the gun.:D
 
I've been a dog too long to worry about it. I just say I'm hunting vicariously through my gun collection. I'll hunt something, even if it is just another gun.
 
We run all potential purchases past each other. She usually will ask, “Is it a good deal” followed by, “If you want it Get it”.
There has been times that I just could not justify a purchase and walk away from it… Then weeks or months later she has surprised me with it.
I guess She’s a Keeper..And she is a CrackShot to boot.:D what-ya-think?
 
At lease with a new gun, you can shoot your way out of the dog house!!!!!

HA.......ha! :)

Some things (like more firearms) are best left between me and my pillow. Eventually my wife finds out, but she does not really know exactly what I have. Only the "hole" in the checking account or cc bill get me in trouble.

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but she does not really know exactly what I have
I'm just the opposite of that. I want my wife to know what I have. In fact I make and update a couple of times a year a CD with photos and a word file showing a picture of the gun all the marking, information and value.
There are two reasons. One, would you want your wife to keep secret thousands of dollars she spent on things for herself?
When I buy a new one I tell her before I do not after. I guess I’m lucky, all I get is a shake of her head and “Another one?”
Two, is what I consider the most important reason. Give a thought to what would happen if you died tomorrow.
What is she going to do with your collection?
Have some gun store stop by and offer her 100$ for a S&W 5 inch 27 built in the 60’s.
Document your collection and give her a copy,,, that is unless you’re afraid of wakening up to a scream in the middle of the night only to find out it’s your own, and her with a knife in her hands!;)
 
I have a gun fund for my gun purchases. It has enough in it to buy a two year old fully loaded chevy truck and pay cash for it.

My wife gave up many years ago trying to tell me what to do or what to buy. I make the majority of the money and pay all the household bills. I don't buy unless I am sure I can sell for what I paid for a gun or make a profit.

My wife has seen me buy a few guns that I sold for a profit like the Mak-90 I bought a year ago for $250 and sold for $700 a few days later. And I don't tell her what to buy or how to spend her money.

She wants to go to Europe. She had a chance to go years ago and never made it. She doesn't have to ask me for permission to go. All I can say is have fun.
 
My son told me about a story he read today about a man who was asked if he died tomorrow would he have any regrets. Yes he said. "I am afraid my wife would sell my guns for what I told her I paid for them".
 
I Bought my first AR 2 months ago, and wife was fine with that. I haven't figured out how I'm going to explain the second one I bought this month, one piece at a time. First the complete upper, then a BCG and charging handle. Heck, I was only one piece away from a complete rifle, so I had to buy a lower.
 
I bring my wife something nice like jewlry or neat gadget and she cant say much when I bring in a new firearm that I "needed" .
 
Back in the old days, it was called the dog house. These days, we call it the "man cave".

My "man cave" is 1300 sq-ft that is air-conditioned, plus another 400 sq-ft of garage and however many sq-ft are in my hangar. *Her* space is around 2400 sq-ft around 100 sq-ft of garage space for her car. She doesn't particularly begrudge me my space and I try to ignore her comments about converting one of the bedrooms into a massive closet for her shoes and whatever.

When you only have a single firearm, acquiring a new one is noticeable. Once you reach 20 or so, she won't notice a new one. When you get to the point where you being in a new upright freezer size gun safe, she might start noticing though.
 
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It's never been an issue. She knows I won't buy anything we can't afford or don't really need.
I went out for parts for a bike one day and came home with new KX250. All she said was it was an ugly green.
Most of the times with guns it's "i want one too".
 
I don't ask her what she spent at Steinmart, she doesn't ask about my hobbies.

I save us so much money doing all the repairs and home improvements around the properties, what I spend on tools or hobbies is irrelevant. For example, just tiled the wet bar backsplash and have started on the kitchen's. Next week will be tiling the hall bathroom floor. Last month was roughing in the plumbing for the new laundry room. I COULD be watching football on TV and paying contractors to do all this work. OR, I can do the work myself, getting a little exercise in the process, and paying for my hobbies. At least that's my story, and I'm stickin' to it.
 
This first solution is for ordering ammo when we know that we can afford it, but want to be 'covert'.

Save money for either a cashier's check/money order or US Postal money order. No credit card charge.
Ask for permission, the use a trusted friend's address and simply tell him/her when it might arrive.
A frank question deserves a frank answer.

If a friend can store a new gun until the wife (girl friend) is gone and she won't recognize a new type or duplicate when it is in your home, easy. Can she distinguish, or will the new gun have a very high profile (AK clone/HK-91 etc)?
Just make sure that the gun is taken to the friend's house late at night in a container (if a rifle) resmbling a golf club bag or has an irregular shape which is not a gun case, to fool nosy neighbors.
 
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