She's new to shooting. 25 yo. Athletic. She wants something other than my Ruger SR22. She has been shooting my 226 Blackwater, but that's a little to heavy for her. Recoil is ok. She prefers the thinner grips, but most have way too much recoil for her. Any suggestions? Thought is she will be able to get confident enough to keep it on her nightstand at night.
Best 9mm for a new female shooter?
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Nope. She refuses to make the decision. Everything feels the same except for weight and grip thickness. I've never bought a gun for anyone but myself so I'm just looking for people that have experience as a new female shooter or helping a new female shooter.
ammo.crafter
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Surprisingly, my petite wife loves shooting my Colt 1911 and greatly dislikes a 9mm.
The 9mm recoils with a "snap" as compared to the .45 which is more of a "push".
Have her try a 1911 with target loads.
Surprisingly, my petite wife loves shooting my Colt 1911 and greatly dislikes a 9mm.
The 9mm recoils with a "snap" as compared to the .45 which is more of a "push".
Have her try a 1911 with target loads.
Ridgerunner665
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Unless she has really small hands.... The Glock 19 is hard to go wrong with.
Not too big, not too small.
Been through this with my wife, she wanted a small pistol, and 45acp... Now she carries a G19.
If her hands are too small for the 19, the 43 will work but it'll be a little snappy with the hotter carry ammo.
Not too big, not too small.
Been through this with my wife, she wanted a small pistol, and 45acp... Now she carries a G19.
If her hands are too small for the 19, the 43 will work but it'll be a little snappy with the hotter carry ammo.
If she's looking to carry it at all, I'd highly recommend Sig's P938. It's probably considered a compact, but it has a little more weight than most pistols that size, which helps with the felt recoil. I'm not saying it's a walk in the park like you would get out of a 5" barreled 1911, and it only has 6 or 7 round mags in 9mm, but I bought one for my wife and I love the damn thing as much as she does.
Having said that, my next handgun will be a Walther PPQ in 9mm or possibly 40 S&W, if you haven't checked that out yet, you should. Pretty slim for a full size, 15 round mags, excellent trigger and ergonomics, AND there's a $100 manufacturer rebate going on until Sept 15. I keep kicking myself for having spent this year's gun money on an AR-15!
Having said that, my next handgun will be a Walther PPQ in 9mm or possibly 40 S&W, if you haven't checked that out yet, you should. Pretty slim for a full size, 15 round mags, excellent trigger and ergonomics, AND there's a $100 manufacturer rebate going on until Sept 15. I keep kicking myself for having spent this year's gun money on an AR-15!
marine6680
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A Sig 226 too heavy?
For any grown adult, male or female, unless they are unusually weak... I find that complaints about the weight of the average pistol to be more psychological, than an actuality. Same with manipulation of the firearm, like racking the slide, and even recoil control. (there are exceptions to this of course) Most new shooters tend to not be as aggressive as they need and should be, when using a firearm. Not gripping tight enough, letting muscles relax too much... Things like that.
Meaning... Almost all issues are actually down to technique, rather than physical inability/limitations. With much of that stemming from mental reasons and/or inexperience.
Also... Why will she not be active in the decision?
That may be a clue that she really isn't into the whole shooting thing, or that it is just a passing curiosity... An effort to spend time doing something you like. (not sure the relation she is to you, so you need to judge her enthusiasm for yourself)
But it could be that she is a bit intimidated, and hopes to avoid feeling like a bad choice was her fault.
An idea, would be to make a short list, and let her try them out, and give her thoughts. How the gun feels in her hand is important, and how comfortable she is with the weight.
She does need to understand that lightness means more recoil on average. A small, light and dainty pistol may feel nice while you are holding it at the sales counter... But it will not feel so dainty when you pull the trigger on a live round. So discuss these things before making the choice.
For smaller statured people, with small hands, having a slim comfortable grip goes a long way to making shooting fun.
Key thing, do not go too small. Nothing smaller than a "compact". Think glock 19 sized... There are a few pistols in that range. Its a good size for most smaller shooters as well.
Do not go smaller than that, or lighter, or single stack... As was mentioned... That increases felt recoil and can make shooting less fun.
Bigger and heavier is better, within reason of course.
A S&W M&P is a nice comfortable pistol. Not too heavy either... Using the small or medium back strap, would be the best bet. I find it shoots mildly, and is easy to operate.
I find the HK VP9 using the small backstrap and medium side panels to be very comfortable in my hands. I have smallish hands... well, more stubby fingers... Easy to rack the slide with the rack assist tabs too... So its a good one to put on the short list. (My VP9 is one of my favorite pistols)
The Walther PPQ is also very comfortable. My fiance found it to be a bit slick in the hand under recoil, and was not a fan of it when she was first learning. Now that she has more experience, she doesn't have the same complaint, it is one of her favorite pistols now. (she is trying to claim it as her own)
I find glocks a bit bulky in the hand, the Gen 4 is better than the older versions, but its still not the best feeling pistol to me, but I still manage to shoot it surprisingly well for not really liking it a lot. That has warmed me up to them a bit more. If it feels good in her hands, its not a bad choice.
The new FN 509 or the prior FNS model are nice pistols. My fiance really likes the feel of the 509, saying it felt very nice in the hand. The FNS is a bit aggressive with its grip texture, which turns her off of it, but I personally like the grippy feel of the FNS... But I do agree the 509 feels better.
The new CZ P-10 is very nice in had as well. I can't ay too much about it, as I have only handled it for a small time.
The CZ P-07 is a good option if you want a hammer.
Also... In the end, if she is having issues with the recoil of 9mm... Regular practice with a 22lr is key to helping hone fundamentals, and make practice useful and fun.
For any grown adult, male or female, unless they are unusually weak... I find that complaints about the weight of the average pistol to be more psychological, than an actuality. Same with manipulation of the firearm, like racking the slide, and even recoil control. (there are exceptions to this of course) Most new shooters tend to not be as aggressive as they need and should be, when using a firearm. Not gripping tight enough, letting muscles relax too much... Things like that.
Meaning... Almost all issues are actually down to technique, rather than physical inability/limitations. With much of that stemming from mental reasons and/or inexperience.
Also... Why will she not be active in the decision?
That may be a clue that she really isn't into the whole shooting thing, or that it is just a passing curiosity... An effort to spend time doing something you like. (not sure the relation she is to you, so you need to judge her enthusiasm for yourself)
But it could be that she is a bit intimidated, and hopes to avoid feeling like a bad choice was her fault.
An idea, would be to make a short list, and let her try them out, and give her thoughts. How the gun feels in her hand is important, and how comfortable she is with the weight.
She does need to understand that lightness means more recoil on average. A small, light and dainty pistol may feel nice while you are holding it at the sales counter... But it will not feel so dainty when you pull the trigger on a live round. So discuss these things before making the choice.
For smaller statured people, with small hands, having a slim comfortable grip goes a long way to making shooting fun.
Key thing, do not go too small. Nothing smaller than a "compact". Think glock 19 sized... There are a few pistols in that range. Its a good size for most smaller shooters as well.
Do not go smaller than that, or lighter, or single stack... As was mentioned... That increases felt recoil and can make shooting less fun.
Bigger and heavier is better, within reason of course.
A S&W M&P is a nice comfortable pistol. Not too heavy either... Using the small or medium back strap, would be the best bet. I find it shoots mildly, and is easy to operate.
I find the HK VP9 using the small backstrap and medium side panels to be very comfortable in my hands. I have smallish hands... well, more stubby fingers... Easy to rack the slide with the rack assist tabs too... So its a good one to put on the short list. (My VP9 is one of my favorite pistols)
The Walther PPQ is also very comfortable. My fiance found it to be a bit slick in the hand under recoil, and was not a fan of it when she was first learning. Now that she has more experience, she doesn't have the same complaint, it is one of her favorite pistols now. (she is trying to claim it as her own)
I find glocks a bit bulky in the hand, the Gen 4 is better than the older versions, but its still not the best feeling pistol to me, but I still manage to shoot it surprisingly well for not really liking it a lot. That has warmed me up to them a bit more. If it feels good in her hands, its not a bad choice.
The new FN 509 or the prior FNS model are nice pistols. My fiance really likes the feel of the 509, saying it felt very nice in the hand. The FNS is a bit aggressive with its grip texture, which turns her off of it, but I personally like the grippy feel of the FNS... But I do agree the 509 feels better.
The new CZ P-10 is very nice in had as well. I can't ay too much about it, as I have only handled it for a small time.
The CZ P-07 is a good option if you want a hammer.
Also... In the end, if she is having issues with the recoil of 9mm... Regular practice with a 22lr is key to helping hone fundamentals, and make practice useful and fun.
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PatientWolf
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So many options come to mind...
- H&K VP9
- H&K USPc
- Sig 2022
- Sig P938
- CZ-P07
- CZ-75
- S&W Shield
- Kahr PM9, CM9, CW9
- Any of a number of lightweight 1911 options with Aluminum or scandium frames)
- I am sure Walther offers some good options.
Try to find out what specific features she likes about each weapon she has shot.
- Trigger pull of hammer vs striker?
- Decocker?
- Safety?
- Grip size?
- Sights?
- Frame size?
- Semi-auto vs revolver
- Cartridge: 9mm vs 45acp vs .40 S&W (all have different recoil feels)
It may help you to narrow down the field.
I guess until you find the one she likes, you just keep adding to your collection.
- H&K VP9
- H&K USPc
- Sig 2022
- Sig P938
- CZ-P07
- CZ-75
- S&W Shield
- Kahr PM9, CM9, CW9
- Any of a number of lightweight 1911 options with Aluminum or scandium frames)
- I am sure Walther offers some good options.
Try to find out what specific features she likes about each weapon she has shot.
- Trigger pull of hammer vs striker?
- Decocker?
- Safety?
- Grip size?
- Sights?
- Frame size?
- Semi-auto vs revolver
- Cartridge: 9mm vs 45acp vs .40 S&W (all have different recoil feels)
It may help you to narrow down the field.
I guess until you find the one she likes, you just keep adding to your collection.
CZ P-01 for the win!
For a nightstand gun it's hard to go wrong with a CZ p-01. Excellent size grip, big enough to preform HD duty while being a tack driver at the range and could also be CC'd if desired. Being SA/DA she doesn't have to keep it in a holster it can be right there ready, point and shoot. It really is the closest thing to being the perfect handgun out there for anyone.
For a nightstand gun it's hard to go wrong with a CZ p-01. Excellent size grip, big enough to preform HD duty while being a tack driver at the range and could also be CC'd if desired. Being SA/DA she doesn't have to keep it in a holster it can be right there ready, point and shoot. It really is the closest thing to being the perfect handgun out there for anyone.
Females typically have small hands, and this tends to exacerbate the difficulty with the heavier double action, especially on a double stack gun. In my experience, women seem to do well with single stack (or very thin double stack) SAO or striker-fired guns of moderate weight (too light means too much recoil; too heavy means too much fatigue).
Some good ones in my experience are:
CZ-75 (in SA only)
Browning Hi Power
1911 (in 9mm)
Kahr K9 Elite
H&K P30S (small panels)
H&K VP9 (small panels)
Sig P320 (compact-small module)
Glock 43, Kimber Micro 9, and Sig P938 seem to work well, too, provided they are not recoil-shy, as these are lighter and flippier. But the small grip size seems to find favor.
Some good ones in my experience are:
CZ-75 (in SA only)
Browning Hi Power
1911 (in 9mm)
Kahr K9 Elite
H&K P30S (small panels)
H&K VP9 (small panels)
Sig P320 (compact-small module)
Glock 43, Kimber Micro 9, and Sig P938 seem to work well, too, provided they are not recoil-shy, as these are lighter and flippier. But the small grip size seems to find favor.
Light weight, light recoil, 7 round capacity? Glock 42 in .380. Great carry gun.
The best carry, and bedside table pistol. Gen 4 Glock 19. TruGlo fibre optic sights. Not too heavy, no silly +P+ rounds. Standard velocity carries Win Ranger T 147g. Nice flowing blouses, like my Florida shirts.
Never leave it in the car, I was in a Security meeting yesterday, 4 car break ins!
But 3 were not locked? Three pistols were stolen, hullo!
All 4 owners had Garages? To much trouble to use? Two were ladies, don't know how to reverse in? I was just there because I drive one of my Sons marked Jeeps showing the flag? So I smiled a lot.
The best carry, and bedside table pistol. Gen 4 Glock 19. TruGlo fibre optic sights. Not too heavy, no silly +P+ rounds. Standard velocity carries Win Ranger T 147g. Nice flowing blouses, like my Florida shirts.
Never leave it in the car, I was in a Security meeting yesterday, 4 car break ins!
But 3 were not locked? Three pistols were stolen, hullo!
All 4 owners had Garages? To much trouble to use? Two were ladies, don't know how to reverse in? I was just there because I drive one of my Sons marked Jeeps showing the flag? So I smiled a lot.
I would take her to a range with a large selection of rental guns and let her try some out. I agree with what has already been posted, she needs to take an active part in choosing the gun. My wife is also indecisive at times and it can be trying but give it a try anyway, if she takes an active part she will likely be more interested in the weapon.
If a double stack is to heavy/big consider a single stack. Just be aware that the smaller/lighter guns will be snappy in the recoil department.
Ruger LC9S
Glock 43
S&W Shield
Sig 239
S&W 3913
Commander size 1911 in 9mm
If a double stack is to heavy/big consider a single stack. Just be aware that the smaller/lighter guns will be snappy in the recoil department.
Ruger LC9S
Glock 43
S&W Shield
Sig 239
S&W 3913
Commander size 1911 in 9mm
Smith and Wesson pro M&P. The grip is more oval and fits smaller hands. The longer Barrel helps with accuracy. You can add a light for HD and the extra weight helps with Muzzle rise.
Also use 115 gr bullets...
The other option is a Beretta 92. Same ergonomics. All steel.
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Also use 115 gr bullets...
The other option is a Beretta 92. Same ergonomics. All steel.
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Marine6680 had some great advice.
Note that in ANY caliber there are some very smooth guns and some very snappy recoil guns. It has to do with weight, spring constants and internal timing of moving parts, so don't pre-judge all 9's / .40's or whatever until you / she has tried them.
Note that in ANY caliber there are some very smooth guns and some very snappy recoil guns. It has to do with weight, spring constants and internal timing of moving parts, so don't pre-judge all 9's / .40's or whatever until you / she has tried them.
HistoryJunky
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I would agree with Marine6680. My wife and I both have small hands. We both wear a size small glove or smaller.
Trigger reach is important. The M&P with small backstrap worked good for me when I had it. My wife could rack it and she has weak hands due to medical issues.
She can also rack my CZ-85B.
If you can get your lady to make the choice, let her. The more she likes the gun, the more likely she will shoot it.
Maybe point her over to the CorneredCat website. Lots of useful information on there for all shooters from a female perspective. I believe the authors name is Kathy Jackson.
I would not recommend the P-07 though, just based on that she cannot rack it. I own the P-07 and love it but it is a fair bit more difficult to rack than my 85.
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Trigger reach is important. The M&P with small backstrap worked good for me when I had it. My wife could rack it and she has weak hands due to medical issues.
She can also rack my CZ-85B.
If you can get your lady to make the choice, let her. The more she likes the gun, the more likely she will shoot it.
Maybe point her over to the CorneredCat website. Lots of useful information on there for all shooters from a female perspective. I believe the authors name is Kathy Jackson.
I would not recommend the P-07 though, just based on that she cannot rack it. I own the P-07 and love it but it is a fair bit more difficult to rack than my 85.
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Hard to beat a Browning Hi Power....
..especially one with Craig Spegel thin grips.
They change the overall feel of the every so slightly chunky HP to a svelte thing of beauty that just melts into your hand.
..especially one with Craig Spegel thin grips.
They change the overall feel of the every so slightly chunky HP to a svelte thing of beauty that just melts into your hand.