I carry Ranger (RA40T) Winchester 180 grain JHP's. Not only do most gurus highly rate these (although the illusion of greatness is often greater than the reality, both in highly rated rounds and in gurus
), but they have low flash, and I find them very controllable.
I have tried shooting the full power Speer Gold Dot's in 165 grains (there was a reduced power 165 grain Gold Dot load that apparently didn't perform well), but I find that their recoil is increased enough so as to cause a degradation in my shooting ability. I could probably practice and get better with them, but I buy into the theory that at handgun velocities heavier is generally better anyway, so there is no reason to invest time in getting good with the 165'ers.
This is a list of loads that supposedly has been tested and do quite well based on FBI testing parameters as published in tacticalforums.com
.40 S&W:
Barnes XPB 140 & 155 gr JHP (copper bullet)
Speer Gold Dot 155 gr JHP
Federal Tactical 165 gr JHP (LE40T3)
Winchester Ranger-T 165 gr JHP (RA40TA)
Winchester Partition Gold 165 gr JHP (RA401P)
Federal HST 180 gr JHP (P40HST1)
Federal Tactical 180 gr JHP (LE40T1)
Remington Golden Saber 180 gr JHP (GS40SWB)
Speer Gold Dot 180 gr JHP
Winchester Ranger-T 180 gr JHP (RA40T)
Winchester 180 gr bonded JHP (Q4355)