You are having a good time!!!
The Sinclair bolt tool is a great thing to have,It is useful any time you disassemble the bolt.
On buying headspace gages,if you walk into your friendly local gunshop,are pleasant,buy some ammo,or powder and bullets ,etc,then mention you have your clean upper and two stripped bolts,and simply suggest paying the gunsmith to drop in gages and spin the bolt makes more sense than buying gages you will never use again....
My experience with my gunsmith,before I bought gages,was,he was happy to check it,and charged me nothing.Understand,do not expect that,he has bills to pay.But establishing a relationship has benefits.
I currently have two AR's,and a couple of spare stripped bolts because I select fitted bolts that would make both rifles less than .001 different in headspace.It makes feeding them easier.
A rifle headspaced tight may not always fully lock.Thats not good,either.
On your green stuff,Play detective!
What sort of ammo do you use?If it comes from a country that carries AK's,they have an interest in screwing up AR's(joking!) but good ammo is important.I make mine.Its excellent,and it is always the same.
What do you lube with? A lot of folks have preferences,a lot of stuff works.
I know CLP works for me.Its not wrong
What cleaning solvents do you use,and do you put it away with the bolt full of solvent? Could be a problem with some solvents.
Scotchbrite? I hope you are using a white pad.White pads do not have abrasive grit embedded in them.Green pads do.Maroon pads do.You just do not want to clean your bolt with abrasives.
There are some good carbon removing solvents that help.An old bronze bore brush works well.Then clean the solvent off,and a little CLP is good.
On your comment about Rock River and Delton and headspace: It really helps to understand the functional relationships of the parts.
Your bolt and your Daniel Defense barrel determine headspace.Delton and Rock River have nothing to do with it.
I had a leftover Colt upper receiver.Couldn't stand that!!It now has a DD18 in midlength bbl,that tapered contour DD has.Forged,chrome lined.
Its got YHM lower,and YHM Mid diamond forend.Jewel trigger.Magpul collapse stock.RR ringmount,the forward cantilever,and a Leu VX3 2.5-8x Mildot.
Shoots great!! You have a DD bbl,nothing wrong with RR,they make good stuff!!I cannot comment on DelTon,as I have no experience.
You are getting an education.I suggest you work with what you have till you have a big grin on your face.Your hardware is fine.You would grow the same green stuff in a Noveske.