On your YHM upper.
There are some folks who write on forums.I do not know if they are being paid by the "elite" brands,(its cheaper than buying advertising)or whether they just get some ego trip out of it.They live to trash any brand that is not on their "cool" list.
I have built with YHM uppers,lowers,and forends.All were great products at value prices.Without hesitation I wouuld build with YHM again.I place more stock in my own experience than what I read.
The part functional relationships,I just do not see where the upper figures into your problem.
I think I would look at the Tapco products first on the order of "suspect"
When you pull the takedown pin,and hinge open your rifle,the BCG should be flush with the rear of the upper,and the buffer should protrude from the receiver extension(buffer tube) by roughly something just over 1/16 in..
When you close it up,the buffer is pushed back by that 1/16 in,off the buffer retainer,In operation,the buffer should make no contact with the buffer retainer,
When you hinge open the rifle,is the BCG flush with the rear face of the upper,or is it sunk in deeper? If it is flush,the upper assy,including BCG is as it should be.
When the buffer is stopped by the buffer retainer,does the buffer protrude 1/16+,so it must be forced to the rear by the bcg when you close the rifle?If so,then I do not see how contact could occur..If the hole in the lower,that holds the retainer,is drilled off location,then the buffer will not protrude sufficiently.
Even with a new buffer,nothing behind the flat front face really matters.
If the bcg is sub flush(sunk deeper into the upper than level) there is a problem.
I don't have time to take down a rifle and study close,but would the cam pin /bolt/bcg relatinship be what stops fwd travel?What can be very bad is a broken cam pin.The bolt does not rotate to lock up,but the rifle fires.