I notice most of these posts address Glocks. Have never owned one, have shot a couple (.40 and .45), and just disdain their ugliness and the no safety aspect (other than the trigger). And they have polymer (light) frames.
You may have guessed that I am a 1911 guy and have been for 30 years (I'm 64). I have not-large hands but have long fingers. I really like 1911 .45 ACP 5" single-stack guns, but I strayed once.
Back in the 90's I thought that the Para-Ord .45 P-14 should be the cat's pajamas. I bought one at a LGS (for $350) that started as a kit frame/mag and had many extraneous 1911 parts completed by another person prior to my purchase. The trigger pull was less than 5# and smooth. I have no idea where the slide came from (have never seen another like it before or after). All GI type parts (hammer, grip safety, slide stop, thumb safety, A1 MSH, short trigger, etc.). Probably SARCO, Numrich, or something else from Shotgun News, back in the day.
It ran very well, even with HP ammo (the guy had done a good job throating the barrel). No complaints there, but...
It was an aluminum frame. When empty, it was very light. When loaded with 13 rounds in the mag and one in the chamber, the weight/balance changed drastically, and as the pistol was fired (emptying the mag) the POA/POI changed because of the balance.
I sold it and kept my other 1911 steel single stacks (2 ea .45 and 1 ea .38 Super), and have never looked back.
The balance between an empty and fully loaded steel 1911 is basically imperceptible to the hand.
I am not planning to go to war. If a home invasion occurs, I have 2 extra 7-round loaded mags at my disposal on my person. In reality, if I can't get it done and win with seven rounds, well...
Jim