OP - YES i am a woman, and YES i shoot 1911s. Ha ha am i the first of the fair gender to respond? FWIW i am 5'8" with what i consider average size hands. My impressions....
My first 1911 was a Colt Combat Elite. It came with the factory grips, the rubber sorta stippled ones with the front strap wraparound. I shot it well, but for some reason convinced myself the grips were too big for me. I swapped for thin profile rosewood stocks. Too thin. Put the pearce (i think) rubber front strap finger groove doodads on it, where the rubber wraps around behind the stocks. Funny, didn't shoot it as well after that. After a couple years, I just put the factory wraparound grip back on. Found i liked it best after all.
I have 2 S&W E series, and left the factory stocks on. I just like em that way. One is full-sized and other the 1911SC commander size. That 1911SC is my absolute favorite 1911, very well balanced IMO, and shoots a dream.
Fourth one is a 1943 or 44 Remington Rand 1911A1. No way would i change out those stocks LOL.