...what I wanted to know what those cleaner lubricants preservatives are. based on your experiences what cleaner, what lubricant what protectant work best together?
I've never run into any incompatibilities, but I understand that there are some products out there that don't "get along".
On my carry guns/home defense guns, I generally use lubrication products without a strong smell and consider low toxicity to be a major plus. Dillon Snake Oil, Lubriplate FMO 350AW are a couple I've used but there are others that should work just as well. I think Hoppes makes a synthetic gun oil that's low toxicity/low odor. I like a light grease for some heavy wear lubrication points and I've used white lithium, Wilson Combat's product--can't remember the name, and Lubriplate SFL-B with success.
I use carry guns that are very corrosion resistant either due to materials and/or finishes. That means I'm not overly concerned about preservatives for them.
For range guns, I'm less picky about lubricants since I don't carry them or handle them except at the range and I wash up immediately after. In addition to the products listed above, I've used BreakFree CLP, Mobil-1 10W30, Dexron IV ATF, Ballistol, Hornady One Shot, Brownell's Friction Defense and a variety of anti-seize type products and RIG for the light grease application.
For typical fingerprint protection, I tend to use a silicon cloth wipedown. For more aggressive corrosion protection I like Beeman's MP-5 metalophilic oil. It does a very good job of corrosion protection but offers pretty much nothing in terms of lubrication capability. I've used Birchwood Casey's Sheath (same deal as the MP-5 in terms of lubrication) but I don't like the smell and I couldn't tell it was any better than the MP-5. I have some of Brownell's Rust Prevent #2 but haven't had much chance to see how it works.
If you're worried about incompatibilities, pick a company that you like (Hoppes is a good one if you don't have a preference) and use their suite of products rather than mixing and matching.