'Kay, it's like this: the "standard 9mm" (or "Parabellum") is 9mm wide by 19mm long in the case. The .380 is the same, but 17mm long.
These things don't have rims...so if you stick 'em in a normal .357, they'll drop forward and your firing pin won't hit the primer.
Ruger sells a .357 Blackhawk single action that comes with a second cylinder in 9mm Para. That's the easy way to get a gun that'll shoot .357, .38Spl and 9mm. But not .380 - they'll drop into the 9mm cylinders but will drop 2mm too deep and again, no primer hit.
There's a freaky conversion for the L-Frame S&W guns and the Blackhawk called the "Medusa Cylinder". This puppy grabs any 9mm/.38 width bullet by the REAR of the shell, with a funky grabber thingy. Upshot: it eats *anything* even remotely resembling good fodder - 9mm, 9x21, .380, .38Super, .38Special, .357, many more oddballs. REALLY cool
. Damn near the ultimate in "post holocaust compatible", you can feed it whatever's laying around, practically.
I think that same bunch switched to using that technology in a complete factory gun. Dunno if those cylinders are still available.
A gunsmith should be able to brew up spare Blackhawk or other SA cylinders in whatever freakshow .38-family caliber you're into, such as .380, 9x21, whatever. But the reality is, you're better off handloading with .357 cases to get whatever power levels you want, from mild .380-equivelents on up to "borderline .44Mag ballistics" in a strong enough gun like a Ruger SA.
The cool part about any wheelgun is there's no "lower limit" to the power levels; you don't need a minimum amount of energy to rack a slide. The only limit is the max before the gun blows up
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Jim