I have an older S&W M64, 2" .38Spl, kinda bigger than most snubbies but reassuringly solid in the hand.
Also have a Ruger SP101, 5 shot, 3" barrel, .357 Magnum. Another solid piece.
Almost any of the guns mentioned will serve you well if you do your part. Maybe you should buy one of each, try them, then decide. <G>