I guess its something to talk about, but...
I have seen people killed with .25 autos, .38 LRN, 9mm fmj, and just about everything else in my fifteen years in law enforcement. I have never been shot with either a 9mm or a .38 or a .357 and I own all of them and would not want to be shot with any of them. I think to many so called expert gun writer types spend way to much time worrying about optimum loads for each type of gun, and I suspect a lot of it has to do with selling guns, ammunition, reloading stuff and above all gun magazines. You can only write so many articles about guns and shooting and they have to keep bringing up this kind of crap to fill magazines so it's all sort of psuedo academic. All guns will kill you. The likelyhood of you needing it to do that as a civilian is about as much as getting struck by lightning unless you just happen to hang out in bad places with bad people all the time. I carry what I want to when I want to. I carry my .38 sometimes cause its easy, I have carried a .45 sometimes cause I like it. I carry full metal jacket ammo a lot cause its cheap, and I guarantee that even with my 9x18 makarov you would not want me to shoot you. So I guess my point is, who cares what is best, just carry what you want and quit worrying about itl.