It's curious, isn't it? I've got small hands, (Woman's medium gloves) weak wrists due to their being repeatedly sprained, (Or is that the other way around?) and yet recoils don't seem to cause me any trouble. Holding the gun tight, and proper posture, I think.
There's some physics behind it, of course; It's energy which does damage, and that's one half mass times velocity squared. Momentum is also conserved in firing a gun, and that's mass times velocity, equals mass times velocity. The upshoot is that the heavier the gun is compared to the bullet and exaust gasses, the more of the energy goes out the muzzle, and the less is available to hurt you. That's why all things being the same, a heavier gun kicks less.
Hold the gun tightly and rigidly, and much of your own weight is added to the effective mass of the gun, dramatically reducing the amount of energy available for recoil; It isn't just that you deal with the recoil better, it's also that there's actually LESS recoil!
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