Search the archives here. There's a ton of info and arguments regarding the Gold Dot vs. Golden Sabre thing. I think Speer may have discontinued the 165gr Gold Dot, but there is a 155 from them (I may be wrong about the 165 thing). You can get a great 165gr Gold Dot round from ProLoad (@1100fps, it's what I'm carrying now).
Then there's always the Winchester 180gr Ranger Talon (if you can get it). If you want to carry something fast and light, there's CorBon's 135gr monsters @ 1200fps+.
Lots of folks like the 165gr Golden Sabres as well. You really can't go wrong with any of them. Just practice like crazy and run a couple hundred rounds of whatever you end up with through your pistol to check the functioning and point of impact.
Good luck on your search!
- gabe
[This message has been edited by GRD (edited July 15, 2000).]