A young, lady friend of mine, needs your advice.........
I have a friend at work, who is a mother of two, with one on the way.
This is a very nice young lady, and as far as I can tell, a very good mother.
She just gets mixed up with the wrong guys!
I respect her enough that if I wasn't married already, I'd be chasing after her myself.
The latest event in her life, is that she became involved with a married guy, who had told her that his marriage was in turmoil, and he wasn't happy.
They had a pregnancy scare once a while back, and after finding out the scare was false, even told her: "maybe we ought to try again"
(supposedly his wife can't have children)
This female friend of mine, fell head over heels, with him. I saw it coming, and I observed how great they seemed together, and I even believed that he was going to leave his wife for her.
She became pregnant, and he was ultra-supportive, even attending doctor's visit's, and ultrasounds with her, while swearing that he was going to tell his wife any day now, and that he wanted to have a family with her.
At 5 months into the pregnancy, for whatever personal reason, she became tired of waiting for him to leave his wife, and called his wife herself.
They had a fairly calm conversation, but things got bad real quick after she did that.
He immediately broke it off (understandably), told her that everything he'd ever told her, was a lie, just so he could keep "getting a piece" on the side.....
He now calls her repeatedly at work, and tells her how sorry a mother she is etc....
He has repeatedly made appointments for her to get an abortion (at 5 1/2 months), and she keeps refusing.
He writes e-mail's telling her to kill the baby, and herself!!
(I've read these)
He calls every night at work, and harrases her on the phone, saying: why don't you just kill yourself etc.....your life is worthless, you're a sorry mother etc..
I'll never have anything to do with the bastard child, it will be illegitimate without a father etc.........
She is at her most vulnerable right now, physically and emotionally, and it is killing me to see him do this to her when she needs support the most.
She is hurting so bad......
She is also scared, because one of the last times he called her at work he said the following:
Why don't you just kill yourself so I don't have to, (pause here) have this burden that is.
The little pause, makes it sound like a threat that he is going to kill her, but finishing the sentence says otherwise.
I heard it myself, and I know exactly what he was trying to say.
She is a dispatcher at a police dept, and all calls are recorded, that is how I know this information is factual, because I've heard the recordings.
What action would all of you take, and when?
At what point does this become a chargeable offense??
How much of this does she have to put up with?
I'm scared and concerned for her.
I have a friend at work, who is a mother of two, with one on the way.
This is a very nice young lady, and as far as I can tell, a very good mother.
She just gets mixed up with the wrong guys!
I respect her enough that if I wasn't married already, I'd be chasing after her myself.
The latest event in her life, is that she became involved with a married guy, who had told her that his marriage was in turmoil, and he wasn't happy.
They had a pregnancy scare once a while back, and after finding out the scare was false, even told her: "maybe we ought to try again"
(supposedly his wife can't have children)
This female friend of mine, fell head over heels, with him. I saw it coming, and I observed how great they seemed together, and I even believed that he was going to leave his wife for her.
She became pregnant, and he was ultra-supportive, even attending doctor's visit's, and ultrasounds with her, while swearing that he was going to tell his wife any day now, and that he wanted to have a family with her.
At 5 months into the pregnancy, for whatever personal reason, she became tired of waiting for him to leave his wife, and called his wife herself.
They had a fairly calm conversation, but things got bad real quick after she did that.
He immediately broke it off (understandably), told her that everything he'd ever told her, was a lie, just so he could keep "getting a piece" on the side.....
He now calls her repeatedly at work, and tells her how sorry a mother she is etc....
He has repeatedly made appointments for her to get an abortion (at 5 1/2 months), and she keeps refusing.
He writes e-mail's telling her to kill the baby, and herself!!
(I've read these)
He calls every night at work, and harrases her on the phone, saying: why don't you just kill yourself etc.....your life is worthless, you're a sorry mother etc..
I'll never have anything to do with the bastard child, it will be illegitimate without a father etc.........
She is at her most vulnerable right now, physically and emotionally, and it is killing me to see him do this to her when she needs support the most.
She is hurting so bad......
She is also scared, because one of the last times he called her at work he said the following:
Why don't you just kill yourself so I don't have to, (pause here) have this burden that is.
The little pause, makes it sound like a threat that he is going to kill her, but finishing the sentence says otherwise.
I heard it myself, and I know exactly what he was trying to say.
She is a dispatcher at a police dept, and all calls are recorded, that is how I know this information is factual, because I've heard the recordings.
What action would all of you take, and when?
At what point does this become a chargeable offense??
How much of this does she have to put up with?
I'm scared and concerned for her.
Wouldn't bother me any.
, Art