One of the problem with early stainless guns was indeed, that if you put two identical alloys together in sliding motion, they indeed tended to chemically bond, stick together, gall, etc. The problem is solved by using slightly different alloys.
What makes stainless is the 12-18% chromium content. The chrome in the metal reacts with oxygen in the air, and forms a strong, tightly adhering "passive" layer of Chromium Dioxide, that resists further chemical reactions (rust). The same is true of Aluminum Alloys (aluminum dioxide) and Titanium (titanium dioxide).
High speed tool steels like M42 are commonly used up to Rc 65 in metal cutting applications, but nothing that hard is used on any gun. The hardest metals I know about are some of the S7 or A2 sears used in high quality match grade pistols. They are often used in the mid Rc 50's. Springs are the next hardest, reaching into the low 50's.
Major components of guns see an impact loading, and a competent engineer will shy away from brittle metals. For that reason you really won't see any major components go much out of the low Rc 40's. The one exception I can think of would be the Carpenter Custom 465 used by Ruger in the .454 and .480 Super Redhawks, which is a fairly exotic metal reaching well up into the Rc 50's.
My experience is in springs, stamping, tooling, and heat treating. I've got a variety of guns, both stainless and carbon steel. The concealable handguns are stainless, and for varmint rifles shooting hot loads, I'd lean toward stainless barrels. Other than that, I don't pay much attention one way or the other. I might think differently if I lived in Alaska, or Seattle.