Consistant OAL and bullet length variations are two different issues. Just because the Gold dot bullets your using mic at different lengths has nothing to do with the Over all Length of the cartridge after loading.
You press does, your seating die profile does, and to some degree your technique does effect your OAL.
If your seating stem has the correct profile on it to match the profile of the bullet your seating, length variations will be inside the case. If using a single stage press the stroke of the press and die setting is a constant, unless your using a seating die that has a seating stem held in place by friction of a crimp nut instead of a threaded seating stem and lock nut.
If your seating stem, like the Lee type, is slipping your oal will progressively get longer but not shorten. If your profile in your seating die doesn't match the profile of the bullet and you have a lot of case tension on some cases and not so much on others, you will have it coming and going.
If your using a progressive press and resizing mixed brass with different hardness it will mess with your oal also from the flex in the shell plate.
The point is the if the bullets do vary in length as I'm sure most big wide hollowpoints will, The extra length will be inside the case not out where you can see it with calipers.
So if your having OAL problems it could even be caused by the harder cases your reloading due to being shot more than others, partially callapsing the hollowpoint to some degree on some and that may be what your seeing.