Despite the ammo situation a .22lr firearm is the perfect starter gun for a new shooter weather male or female. It will let the shooter learn the fundamentals like proper grip, trigger control and the like without focusing on any recoil. I took my female cousin to the range for the first time with a GSG 1911. She never even touched a gun before and with-in 15 minutes after teaching her the basics she was getting a very tiny group on her target from 12 yards.
I moved her up to a full size 9mm handgun and although she liked the .22 pistol better, she was getting okay groups. Don't start her out with a small pistol with a short sight radius and limited grip. Many women who like those small guns like them for their size before ever shooting one. Despite how much she likes it, she may not like shooting it right off the bat. After she get's the basics down, move her up in caliber, but keep the gun in no less than a compact size. Find a place that rents guns or find someone with a variety of firearms she can try out.
I had a P238 and it's a fantastic little carry gun with low recoil, but I wouldn't put it in the hands of a new shooter right off the bat.The manual of arms is just something learned from shooting and practicing with the gun on a regular basis. I started out with thumb safety firearms so it's second nature for me and could be for anyone who will actually practice. If someone buys one, learns it and barely shoots it then a point and shoot type of gun with no manual safety might be more appropriate. Another .380 I could suggest in the category that has no manual safeties is a CW380, however I don't like suggesting guns to a person I don't know with zero experience.