It is probably good for all of us to keep in perspective that bullet pulls have been a fact of life for revolver shooters for a long time, and they are not restricted to lightweight guns. Pulled bullets have tied up many a K-frame over the years -- ask any old-time cop! That said, most modern ammunition loaded by the big companies is remarkably uniform in its crimp and all other characteristics too. These lightweight wonders put an extra dimension on having good, reliable, consistent ammo that you can trust. You guys who test your ammunition before you carry it are doing a very sensible thing.
Much has been written about the effectiveness of the 158 grain SWCHP "FBI Load," but any modern jacketted hollowpoint load will likely be very effective when you have to use it. Since those loads are less apt to tie up the gun than the lead loads, I think their use is advisable, but that is a choice for the shooter to make. Again, testing in your gun, with your grip, etc., is the only way to be certain that you won't have a problem.