RIP my student

duck hunt

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Just found out this morning that one of my former students was shot and killed. Drug related; they already have suspects. He was standing in an alley when it happened -- nothing too suspicious there. Twenty years old.

When I taught him, he was a big gangly kid with an unruly afro and a wide, charming smile. Fifteen years old and already in enough trouble to be locked up. Couldn't read a lick, but loved to learn and remembered everything I told him. I had to ask him not to answer *all* the questions, give the other kids a chance.

Over the past five years, I've been able to keep loose tabs on him because he's been in and out of other facilities and programs where friends and former co-workers met and grew to like this very affable kid.

When my friends, family, coworkers, and whoever else treat me like a pariah and a turncoat for not agreeing with their kneejerk liberal views on social programs and welfare, I point to this kid, lying dead in an alley in the snow. IT DOESN'T WORK. It didn't work for him, it didn't work for any of the thirty students I have now, many of whom have parents who still get checks for kids they haven't fed or clothed in years. It didn't work for the kid who broke into your car last week. WE TRIED IT AND IT FAILED. The young man in question had been in every taxpayer-funded feelgood program you could name. Residential. Aftercare. At risk. Intensive Outpatient. Education Group. Name your buzzword. The only people it helped were liberals whose guilt kept them up at night. While you were watching cable in your suburban McMansion, your 20-year-old charity project was bleeding to death in an alleyway. How do you feel now?

I used to be a liberal. I wanted to help. I cared. I hurt. I wanted to do things for the children. Now, going on twenty years of working with the children, my eyes have been opened to some hard, cold realities. I still care, and I still want to help -- but I know now that handouts only help the hander; they do nothing but cripple the handee. If my student, or his parents, or the kid who shot him, had been allowed to become self-sufficient without a lot of do-gooder liberal meddling, he might have lived to see Christmas.

In about an hour, I'm going to be serving apple cider and cookies to 30 incarcerated sex offenders and reading them "The Grinch." Okay, so I still have a little of the do-gooder in me. But I talk to my students about work, and about self-respect, and natural consequences. My students know what side of the fence I am on politically, and they respect that. The recent election allowed us a lot of good discussions about welfare and its pitfalls. I hope that I have reached some of them, and maybe as a result one kid might think twice before risking his life in an alley for some quick money that he feels is his birthright.

I know some of my coworkers today are going to be saying, and I quote, "the system failed him." I hear it every time one of our kids doesn't grow up to be a Nobel prize winner. D*mn right the system failed him. The SYSTEM FAILED. The system always fails. Their solution will be to pour more money into more programs to help "at-risk youth." Nobody is willing to admit that the emperor has no clothes.

My response will be the same as always, because this isn't the first student I've lost, nor will it be the last. I'll be a little tougher on my students, expect a little more of them, let them get away with a little less. And I will continue to do whatever I can to keep guilty liberals out of office...for the children.
 
Duck Hunt,

I'm inspired to read that you're still trying in spite of the problems created by "the system".

May I ask what grade level this kid was in as an illiterate 15 year old?
 
Matt,

In yet another feelgood liberal stroke of genius, the Special Education program allows for continued promotion of kids with IEPs regardless of ability. So, tenth grade Special Ed.

IEP = Individualized Education Program
(or "I'm Exempt from Punishment")
 
Duck hunt, I'm sorry to hear about your student. Even if he was a critter, his death is still a waste of a young life.

As long as you, and people like you are working with these kids, the System can't be a total failure.

LawDog
 
Reality bites hard

Sorry to hear about the kid.

The state and other various institutions always make bad parents. Just about the time I've convinced myself I'm a Libertarian, I think about the effect that legalizing drugs would have on the kids of the dopers. Let adults blow thier brains with battery acid and floor polish if they want, but their kids have to live with the consequences of those decisions too.

May he rest in peace. The awful, cruel reality is that he probably never really had a chance.
 
Condolences and prayers for you, duck hunt.

And bless you for the work you do with kids who need it so much. I mourn this loss, but based on what you said, I am confident that you have saved at least a few lives. You'll never know which ones, but I'm sure there are one or two who would be dead now if you hadn't been there to give them some help when they needed it.
 
Duck hunt,
Sorry about the child.

When I was mid-twenties, a close friend and ex-roommate of mine was killed in Houston. The investigation report said he was 'mugged' for his money. He was shot at close range by a .22. Most people would say, "not an effective round". This one hit his heart and he bled to death in less than two minutes. He had dropped by to see me at my night job as a bartender. I BEGGED him to hang around and let me take him home when I got off in about an hour. He declined, citing how nice a night it was and that he was just going to walk home. Walking was one of his favorite pasttimes.

The next day, at work, Patrick didn't show up. I had a sick feeling in my stomach that something was wrong. Before lunch, we were told what had happened. I almost passed out from grief. This man taught me patience and yoga. He taught me self respect and that dignity can be had by everyone, regardless of their station in life.

Patrick had lost his mother and aunt earlier that year. That was a bad year. I attended the funeral of three people who I truly admired. Patrick was a college educated black man who lived in the Fifth Ward of Houston. He had moved back home after we quit sharing an apartment together. I will always miss Patrick.

Hang tuff and don't let the b@st@rds get you down.
 
DuckHunt, you have one of the toughest jobs in the world. And it sounds like you care about your kids. While I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you continue your work.

Dick
 
My Condolences

I teach junior high kids over here. Something like that would devastate me. I keep getting ready for that devastation. Suicide is becoming more and more common, along with the occasional decapitation and home made bomb.

And of course, no one's responsible. People over here see these things as if they were typhoons: something that humans have nothing to do with. It's really institutionalized irresponsibility.

The entire world's being driven insane.
 
Man, I'm sorry. I've been there too. See people all the time who I can remember when they were still happy little kids. I've watched some of them die in the ED.


Payette, what we're doing now is really keeping those kid's parents off dope, huh? Yep, I see it all the time in the detox center and the emergency room: "I can't find any dope to do because of all the drug laws."

I recently saw a snide poem from Prohibition days, it went something like this:

THE CONDITION OF THE UNITED STATES AFTER FIVE YEARS OF PROHIBITION

Wet
Yet.
 
Duck-
You're as brave as a Critical Care Nurse in a terminal cancer ward. You deal with it every day, knowing how few will truly live thru it. Yet you continue to offer a chance and a hope. You have neither hardened you heart nor given up. There ain't 1/1000 of us on this Board, including myself, that has that kind of determination.

In short, you are an American hero.

Stick with it. This society and it's parents owe these kids a chance, if not a cure. It can happen. You have much for which to be proud. Know that your loss is ours....all of ours.
Rich
 
Teachers are not accorded enough respect, by far, for the amount of work and care they put into our kids. Every time I see some athlete or CEO walk away with a multi-million dollar paycheck I get a sinking sensation. That feeling comes from the realization that we are probably looking at the beginning twilight of our civilization. I wish our priorties would revert a bit. You sound like a very good teacher. good luck to you.

michael
 
Duck Hunt, sorry about that young man. Although it's some years past now, I taught in several GED/Adult Basic Education programs, including one that was started and managed by my wife for parolees/probationers/incarcerated in the Brewster County, TX jail and courthouse. You can believe me when I say I know a little of what you go through.

Keep on saving 'em one at a time, lady.
 
duck hunt, you're a good and courageous person ... I'm sorry to hear of your loss.


Believing in individual freedom and personal responsibility ... being a libertarian / Libertarian ... not supporting the War on Some Drugs ... does not make a person cold and uncaring. On the contrary. It is cold and uncaring to coerce citizens, effectively at gun point, to contribute money to failed government programs. It is cold and uncaring to turn poor people into dependent 'children' by offering handouts instead of helping hands. It is cold and uncaring to encourage generation after generation to remain dependents of the state. And, it is cold and uncaring to sacrifice citizens and LEO's ... not to mention the Bill of Rights ... to a failed War on Some Drugs, year after year.

The libertarians I have known in my life have been generous, decent people. OTOH, I've known liberals who were very stingy with their own money, but quite supportive of taking mine by force to satisfy their dismal, failing state programs.

Therein lies the paradox. Supporting failing, liberal government charity programs says nothing about true charity. It is a veneer ... usually covering guilt, selfishness and illogic.

IMHO, we owe our children, our country and our futures the honesty of speaking the truth about such foolishness. It is time we supported public policy that encourages personal responsibility, and a foundation of individual freedom.

Regards from AZ
 
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