Parkerizing really isn't that big a deal, providing you have access to a sandblaster (or even better yet - a blast cabinet). Degrease everything completely, then degrease it again (and maybe again - grease is your enemy!), and blast it until it's down to bare metal. People argue over which media is best to use, but the finer you go the lighter the color of park you'll get. The more course the more dark, but it also leaves the finish rough which will rub the high spots out and let the bare metal show through. As with everything, the Way is on the middle path. Don't touch or let anything not degreased come into contact with the bare metal before putting it into the park solution, and don't let more than an hour or so go by between blasting and parking.
Get some parkerizing solution and find a stainless steel container big enough to put whatever you want to park in. Solution can be bought from Brownell's, Shooter's solution, or Palmetto Enterprises (who I use). Once again, people argue about which is best, but the manganese phosphate will give you the dark charcoal color while the zinc phosphate gives you more of a light grey. Stainless steel you can get just about anywhere for not very much - keep your eyes open at flea markets and yard sales if you want to go really cheap. I use SS mud pans I got for a dollar each for most of my stuff. If it'll hold water it'll work - if it won't, seal the cracks with JB Weld and it'll work. Don't use aluminum - the park solution will eat it away pretty quickly, and you'll contaminate your solution.
Put your pot on a coleman stove and put the solution in it. Heat it to just below boiling (around 180°F is about ideal) and stick your stuff in there. Turn it every once in awhile, but leave it in there until it stops bubbling (that's the chemical reaction). Usually it only takes about five minutes, but it varies quite a bit depending on how much mass the part has.
Take it out (still don't touch it - use tongs or something) and dip it in water to get rid of the acid. A five gallon bucket will do for most things - slosh it around good. Take it out of the water and coat it COMPLETELY with either WD-40 or non-detergent motor oil (20 or 30wt). This will displace the water to prevent and rusting. WD-40 gets into small spaces better, but if left on for a long period of time will actually cause some rust of it's own - the oil works better and seems to make the part a little darker but won't seep into the little cracks as easily. Some people use both.
Rub it down with a rag, and you're good to go - it's that easy.
Oh yeah - do it outside with plenty of fresh air, and don't hang your head over the pot. The fumes are corrosive and not good for your lungs.
There are other options you can do (acid pre-dip, etc.) that people also argue about, but this really is about all there is to it - you can even do it without a sandblaster, but it's a pain and doesn't give you as even a finish.
Let me know if I can help at all, or if anything's not clear.
Matt