I do not know which is better, but I will give you these comments because I shoot nearly all of them.
357 sig: I have a 229 sport in 357 sig. Work of art by SIG, exceptionally accurate, very little recoil and reasonably loud. I would not carry it though, to loud without muffs.
38 super: I have Baer 1911 in 38 super, and it is more accurate then I am. Easy to shoot, but watch those hot reloads. Tends to be hard on brass, but for carry I would use factory anyway. Would not carry it, to expensive of a gun.
9x23 no experience.
10mm: In my witness, heavy, accurate and tons of power. Easy to control out of a big gun. Some extended (12 rnd) mags out there, but not enought to be impressive (I do not own any). Very reliable and easy to shoot quick. I carry it, iut is cheap, and I do not worry about scratching it and it is very formitable. In my glock 20, light, accurate and more power then any autoloader I know of. As Mr. Glock says 16 rnds of 10mm power is about the most powerful autoloader you can get. More of a challenge to control, but easy to shoot. I would probably not carry it. 15 rnd mags are so expensive, and I do not like the squishy feel of the gun during firing.
Actually what I carry the most is a PPK/S for "formal" occasions and now a H&K P7PSP for less "formal" occasions. The PSP is 9 rnds of very accurate power.
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P229 Sport and 357 SIG, H&K P7PSP and 9MM, Dual Perfection!!