The Black Widow is the best of the minirevolvers.
Two points: get the double-cylinder flavor so you can practice a LOT dirt cheap with .22LR, and get the fixed sights versus adjustable.
As to grips: the newest factory BW grip is REALLY nice, it's smaller than that squared-off monstrosity they used to use...more like a flat black rubber well-used bar of soap.
Another choice is a new "folding grip" with integral belt clip that's kinda neat. Slows the draw a bit though, and it's no good for inside-pocket work.
Finally, there's an "oversize wood" grip that some people use in factory layout, or custom-polish down to some degree. The BW will take any grip that the .22Magnum Minis can use, same grip frame under the rubber.
Ammo: the CCI MaxiMag +V and the same in TNT are the top picks. Same weight (30grain), same ballistics, but the original should punch deeper, the TNTs have a more advanced JHP cavity and would do more damage on a torso shot. My pick: a single original formula first at bat, then stagger originals with TNTs.
CCI ignition is FIRST rate. I've had problems with the Winchester Supremes (in two magnum minis) so despite their otherwise good stats, I'm a CCI die-hard.
If you're going to keep the .22LR cylinder loaded as a speedloader
then fill it with Remington Yellowjackets. They're not bad stuff.
With any minirevolver, you'll need to shoot 300+ rounds of .22LR to get used to it, then at LEAST 100 rounds of Magnums. Then at your monthly practice, at least 50 LRs and a few cylinders full of Magnums. These are not all that easy to master but once you do, accuracy is shockingly good. I have a 1.5" barrel Freedom Arms minirevolver in .22Mag that has made torso-area hits - at 50 YARDS. No joke! The magnums have enough punch to make it through skullbone in situations where .22LR might not.
DO NOT use snakeshot for defense. Don't even think about it.
For .22LR practice ammo, anything will do. Zippier stuff will more closely approximate Magnums that you'd use in a real fight...CCI MiniMags are pretty quick, Yellowjackets are a little bit more dinero but probably the hottest LRs out of these little tubes.
Best "front pocket surprise gun" made
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