Absolutely!
My wife's gun, which she absolutely LOVES and wouldn't turn loose of for anything, is a Kahr MK9. I bought myself a P9 because the MK was too short for me, and she likes the P9 as well.
But then, her daddy had her shooting since 14, CCW'ing since she was 19 (Alabama) so recoil and muzzle flip don't bother her at all. I don't see that there's that much anyway, but then, recoil is a VERY subjective thing.
Both are GREAT for smaller hands. It's the first pistol I go ta' recommending when people start looking for a small carry piece. With the P9, you can't even tell you're wearing it at all.
The grip is indeed slim, so I put a Hogue on mine too. It started grabbing my shirt when I tried to present, so I took it off and threw it in the closet.
Good luck!