A tip, if you're using a metal rod.
First, get one that is close to bore diameter. There should be some free play.
Of course, disassemble the pistol.
GENTLY insert the rod from the muzzle to the nose of the stuck bullet. Mark the location.
Now, get some of that wonder of wonders, duct tape. Wrap the duct tape around the rod, close to the end (about 1" in) until it is a snug fit into the barrel. Repeat with the last 1/3rd of the rod, make sure that the rod itself is longer than the barrel, and of a stiff material.
Insert the rod into the barrel; it might be helpful to lube the outside of the tape bushing with a bit of grease. Place it in firm contact with the stuck bullet.
Now, place the chamber end of the barrel on a piece of hard wood. A fresh 4x4 will do fine. Tap the end of the rod; the bullet should come free.
Inspect the barrel for bulges; clean, rassemble--and remember to put the popwder in next time!