may not be what you want to hear....
Andrea, You mentioned that you can still see it in a Paddle....
CCW requires that you change your look (clothes)
I would have to say that many new CCW Carriers try to hard to find the magic holster and dont realize that CCW requires that the user more so change manner in which he/she dresses. A baggy sweatshirt, unbuttoned collared shirt, or photographers vest will do more for concealing you weapon than the "perfect holster" ...the down side of this is of course depending on who you are and where you carry, the "grundge" look will only be acceptable some of the time.
Females have fewer option than males for CCW
Because of the female hip structure, most females will find it next to impossible to find a strong side belt, or in the waist band holster that does not place the gun at an uncomfortable angle.
This leaves you with shoulder holster (boobs can cause a problem here), fanny pack (some people just dont like them), ankle carry (slow and you are not going to get that beretta on you leg), small of the back and in the front waist band (crossdraw or strongsided)
Both Small of the back and Front IWB are good choices....(However small of the back can increase hazard of spinal injury in case of a fall. )
Coranado Leather makes some purse holster, but I am not a fan of having a gun that is not attached to me, especially in a targeted item by theives...purse. (seems like a good way to loose a gun when you may need it most.)
Smaller guns conceal better than bigger guns
In this case it would seem that you have chosen one of the biggest guns made and are now trying to conceal it on a female frame....this is further complicating a situation that did not have a lot of options to begin with....
So...options given the perameters as set right now....
1.) buy flannel shirts, large light windbreakers, or a photographers vest and keep the small of the back holster.
2.) look in to a straight cant in the waist band holster for front IWB carry.....buy flannel shirts, large light windbreakers, or a photographers vest.
3.) consider off the body carry.......fanny pack, daytimer or purse carry....
4.) buy smaller framed gun to increase carry options....
Sorry to be the little dark rain cloud but hopefully you will find something in here that helps you....
SDnR